NOTE: This podcast was transcribed by an AI tool. Please forgive any typos or errors. Carly Wise === [00:00:00] Cara: Are you ready to embark on a journey of emotional freedom and transform as we delve into the powerful world of emotional freedom techniques, EFT. This is where healing begins at your fingertips. Join me as I interview Carly. She is a certified EFT tapping practitioner who is committed to helping women transform their limitations into victories, possibilities, growth, freedom, and empowerment. [00:00:26] Cara: Being a freedom and empowerment coach. She supports her clients in creating emotional freedom. Using the tool of tapping to release stuck emotions and uncover limiting beliefs that keep people stuck in a vortex of the past. And move towards a vision that inspires that. This was a wonderful interview and I can't wait to dive in. [00:00:47] Cara: Welcome to floductivity. The podcast that guides you on a transformative journey towards spiritual wisdom, self development and healing practices. All aimed at elevating your [00:01:00] intuition and aligning you with your soul's purpose. I'm your host, Cara Dempsey. And I'm thrilled to have you joining me today as we learn together. [00:01:09] Cara: Hi Carly. Welcome to the show. [00:01:11] Carly: Thank you so much. I'm so excited to be here and just to connect and talk. [00:01:17] Cara: Yeah. I love how we connected through, Ms. Gala, darling, with her tapping, and I know that's something that you specialize in. But before we really dive into that, [00:01:29] Carly's Favorite Self-Care Practices: Exploring Tapping, Breath Work, and Journaling --- [00:01:29] Cara: my favorite question, I like to ask my guests, what are your favorite self-care practices? [00:01:35] Carly: Definitely tapping [00:01:37] Cara: Yeah. [00:01:38] Carly: and actually Gala Darling was one of the first people that I really saw and got inspired with tapping. tapping is always. My go-to, but I've actually been really exploring breath work as well, and the power of that and journaling. So I write pretty much in my journal every [00:02:00] day. [00:02:00] Carly: And the journal that I created, for clients as well as anyone, but it's the Explore Vibrate Manifestation Journal and it just helps me. Understand my thoughts. The first thing I do when I wake up, because sometimes I wake up and it's like 20 million things are already in my head the moment I open my eyes. [00:02:24] Carly: So having this practice to just sit and organize those thoughts is really helpful. So I would say journaling, tapping, exploring, breath work, and I'm even gonna add visualization. [00:02:36] Cara: Yeah, I like that. It's funny because all those things I always have resistance towards, but when I do them, I have the most. Breakthroughs. I have a hard time doing all those things all the time. When I'm into journaling, I'm into journaling, and when I'm into breath work, I'm into breath work and so like, it's like I have the certain times, even though I know they would be so [00:03:00] helpful altogether at once. [00:03:01] Cara: But I would love to know more about what has brought you into with the breath work a little more. [00:03:07] Carly: Yeah, I received the Natalia Benson bundle and so that included the awaken breath work app, and my husband has done breath work. Before me and when I see him do it, when he is really consistent in it. I really see the shifts and the breakthroughs that he has. But it's always been something that has been very, intimidating. [00:03:32] Carly: this year specifically, I just diving a little bit into astrology, but I have been dedicated to working on my wounded Chiron, which is in Gemini. And I have a lot of planets in my third house of communication. And so like this area of the throat and I think just breath has been always a very scary place. [00:03:54] Carly: So I've been very. Hesitant to attempt something like breath work because it seems like just an area [00:04:00] that would activate something very vulnerable for me. this year has just been like that year of doing all the scary things when it comes to anything related around my throat and my breath. And the Awakened Breath app was a perfect, way for me to test it out at home. [00:04:18] Carly: Not have to go to the commitment of a class where I could feel like I didn't have control or this sense of safety. even if it's led by somebody else, I just wanna feel like, okay, I'm at home. I'm in my cocoon, and if I need to stop like I can. And so that app really offered that to me. And just doing a few of the sessions, it was really. [00:04:43] Carly: Wonderful. Some of 'em were intense. Some of 'em I'm just like bawling, crying out of nowhere, which is what breathwork can do. But it was, it's a nice segue into me just learning what my own pace is when it comes to breathwork. I think that's what's really [00:05:00] important is when I notice the instructors and they're going quicker and deeper and faster, and I am starting to do that, but then it just, It gets so uncomfortable that I can kind of tell myself like, Hey, it's okay. [00:05:14] Carly: Like I can go at my own pace too. Keep follow the instructions, but I'm still gonna benefit with however I do this. that was been my intro into breathwork this year. [00:05:26] Cara: Yeah. Like you bringing the idea of using that in Gemini and kind of working through mine's in Taurus. And so I have found that my 10th house, my mc is also in Taurus, and so I'm really trying to live in a world of groundedness and breathwork helps me with that as well, because it gets me grounded in my body. [00:05:48] Cara: I did also get The super, I forget what it was called, but that bundle as well. And so yeah, and it was like, yeah, like it, it gives you a taste of everything. And that's kind of what I was looking [00:06:00] for. I was in some other, communities and I love them, but there were very specified like. [00:06:05] Cara: Astrology and it was helpful for me to get a better idea. But this kind of lets you dabble a little bit in everything. But I recently went to, A retreat that was based on breath work. And so it was kind of something that I was like, okay. I think if I hadn't won a gift card that paid for part of it, I don't know if I would've chose that one. [00:06:25] Cara: But it was so life changing and the experience I had while I was there was also like life changing. I had some things that I didn't realize was Affecting me and just showing up in, you know, what I wanna do and who I wanna be. I love that you have that breath work and I think there's so many people that resist meditation. [00:06:48] Cara: And so then my next thing to tell them is try breath work because you have to do it. Meditation's so hard because some people just don't really know how to be with themselves. And breathwork [00:07:00] is giving you something to do and it just moves that energy or it slows down the energy, like you can manipulate it in any way that you want. [00:07:08] Cara: I do like it. I do have a commitment that I have to do something. From my spiritual toolbox every day. [00:07:15] Cara: something's being done, journaling, meditation, and I usually do two of them, but for some reason breathworks on the on the back burner a little bit. But things like this usually [00:07:26] Carly: Spark it back up again. [00:07:28] Cara: Yeah. Yeah. [00:07:29] Carly: Yeah, that that's a really great point cuz, and that's what tapping was for me. I think. I bet tapping almost allowed me to move into the possibility of breathwork because I definitely was one of those people that resisted meditation. my husband, when. He started working for a company, the company offered, complimentary TM meditation training for all of their employees. [00:07:55] Carly: And because my husband was a part of the beginning stages of this startup, I was [00:08:00] able to join and do the tm, you know, intro of like going in, getting your mantra and then like you do the, the classes there. I was, I. Like crawling outta my skin. I was so angry. I was so resistant. I literally had to lead the class. [00:08:19] Carly: Like I had to have somebody, like the person who was teaching me go in a separate room with me and do the meditation with me because I couldn't be with the group. I was so resistant it didn't feel good to me, and I think that's why there's, I. So much power in just going through and exploring different modalities now, like the breath work, tapping, meditation, all the different types of meditation, visualization, just to test them all out because some of 'em are not gonna be like your cup of tea. [00:08:50] Carly: And for me, tm, I tried so hard. I tried for like a year and my husband loves it. Like he is to this day, every single morning. [00:09:00] Meditated in the TM way. And so when I found tapping and it was this like feeling of, oh, I can move my body, like I can tap and like have my body be here as it's a form of almost meditation and consciously speaking and release. [00:09:20] Carly: It was like the holy grail for me and I think it opened up this other I. Door of just trying different things, [00:09:28] Cara: Yeah, I definitely believe so many people are like, this is the thing I need to do from now on out. And it's like, well, there's something for us in every season of our life, of our cycle, like whatever it is, and just be open to it and yeah, knowing that, okay, well, I might be hard on myself that I'm not doing breath work right now, but when I know I need it, I'll be doing it. [00:09:49] Cara: yeah, and I recently had someone close to me where I. Someone close to them was like, you need to meditate in the morning. And I was like, Hey, how about maybe I teach you some breath work to do in the morning [00:10:00] if you're having that resistance. this was a, someone younger and I was like, there's no way that I'd be able to sit in meditation as like a pre-teen, you know what I mean? [00:10:08] Cara: I don't think I could do it. So having things like tapping and breath work I think is, beautiful. I'd like to know a little bit more about the journal that you mentioned. [00:10:17] Carly: Yeah. [00:10:17] Cara: I have it right here. Clearly my color is game. I'm lots of blues and greens. it's [00:10:24] Cara: that's my favorite color. [00:10:25] Carly: Yeah, I love it. so this is a, it's a morning and evening reflection journal, so just as I opened it up. But there's morning, there's evening, and then it's as well as the 12 months. [00:10:39] Carly: So the journal in itself is technically a 30 day practice along with the 12 months, but there's an option. To put the date up top for not only the morning but also the evening. So if you just do the morning, then that's okay. so many times it just happened this [00:11:00] morning, like I didn't do the evening for yesterday, on the next day and with the evening page, I just wrote morning and evening reflection and put the day's date. [00:11:08] Carly: I've just had so many journals where if it was like the year and it had the date, And if I missed the day, I would miss a whole month. I, it was just like that resistance of coming back to it. So when I created it, I really wanted it to be the flexibility, the openness of like, don't shame yourself if you didn't show up today. [00:11:29] Carly: life happens. more just when you're ready, it's there and you have the whole year to do it. So, I created it when I was actually, let's see here. I think I was reading, asking It is given by Esther and Jerry Hicks again and just the things that was coming up and I was working with another manifestation journal at that time. [00:11:49] Carly: And my mind just kind of exploded into this baby and my work with what I do with emotions, understanding vibration, seeing that emotions and [00:12:00] vibrations, we are vibrating our emotions. And I was like, these are so linked. And there's not a reflection journal out there that really combines both of them. [00:12:09] Carly: So, With everything I knew, with going through tapping certification, learning about emotions, and then now reading this book that was bringing in the manifestation portion, I was like, I need to create this. Like I need to create something where people can really become aware of their emotions so that they know what they're vibrating. [00:12:28] Carly: Because what they're vibrating is what they're manifesting and that's what's showing up in their life. and I didn't even realize it when I was creating it. I was just so passionate about it that I was like, this is a perfect workbook for my current one-to-one clients in doing the work at home. [00:12:43] Carly: Cuz like, this is what I'm helping them with. So in all of my packages, it's just included in the package so that everyone, they have it at home and it's like, okay, you want homework, like, Use your journal and come back if you have questions. And in supporting the journal [00:13:00] every month I do a free live over Zoom and we do all of the monthly questions together as well as tapping. [00:13:09] Carly: So just really trying to create community around it so that people can come and just share this journal together. And you don't have to have the journal to do it, but. It's fun because when we are going through those questions, so it's just that link of connection. [00:13:26] Cara: I love that. And I'm actually going to see Abraham in person next month. [00:13:30] Carly: Yeah, so, oh my gosh, that's so awesome that you're gonna go see them in person. someone else actually in high vibe Honey, I connected with, and she was telling me I didn't realize that they did things in person, and so that might be one of my commitments for myself this year is to go see them in person. [00:13:49] Cara: Yeah. It's actually kind of funny. they're not by where I live. And so I put a couple dates on my vision board that I was like, okay, if it works out well, I ended up planning a trip [00:14:00] with my family to go visit family, and I realized I. I booked the flights and I was just literally sitting there in meditation and was like, oh my gosh, I am going to be in the city they're gonna be at. [00:14:13] Cara: Like, and so I went to my husband and I'm like, I have to like, it's on my vision board. I swear I did not plan this trip around seeing them, but like, how can I not? And so I'm really excited. It's a bucket list, and I'm not gonna lie, I actually, it's in Boston. [00:14:28] Carly: Oh, [00:14:28] Cara: Yeah, They actually do cruises And I was like, how cool would that be? And like in like, New Zealand. And I'm like, okay, well that's not all right now, but maybe in the future I'll put it on my vision board and we'll see how soon that comes, to fruition. But yeah, I'm really excited. I actually reached out to them and was like, Hey, any chance you'd like to give me like a quote or two for my podcast? [00:14:51] Cara: And they were like, no. And I was like, it's worth asking, right. I asked. It was not [00:14:57] Carly: Given [00:14:57] Carly: did ask, you did ask, you did ask.[00:15:00] Then it would be, what was the vibration when you asked, how were you feeling when you asked? But at least you did. Yeah, that's, that takes courage. [00:15:07] Cara: I did. We'll see. We'll never, we'll know, you know, we'll see what the opportunity brings, but [00:15:12] Carly: now that you're gonna see them in person, I mean that [00:15:14] Cara: there is like this whole disclaimer, like no video, no audio, you are not allowed to do anything like that during the actual workshop. And I was like, I figured. So we went to a comedy show that was like that where like they're like, if we see your phone, you will immediately be kicked out. [00:15:31] Cara: And I was like, well, I paid a lot of money for these tickets. I do not want that to happen. So, Yes. Okay. [00:15:37] Carly: I'm excited to hear your experience afterwards. [00:15:40] Working with Our Emotions: A Path to Freedom and Empowerment --- [00:15:40] Cara: Like I told you before we got started, I'm taking a little break because it's actually gonna segue into the next question is I feel like I'm getting the influence of other people's goals and dreams and it's affecting on how it's making me feel on my own goals and dreams. [00:15:57] Cara: And so I would like to know a little bit more about. [00:16:00] Working with our emotions, like how can it give us that freedom and empowerment [00:16:04] Carly: yeah. The thing with emotions. So I'll just start by saying that emotions are neither good or bad. And that has been a very trained belief system that we've had. Like there's negative or positive, good or bad. And really, I like to just think of it as a communication system. It's just a communication system, so really making it neutral and. [00:16:29] Carly: When we're feeling the emotions that are challenging, that are uncomfortable, it's a signal that you are out of alignment with your truth. You're out of alignment with your sense of self-worth power. you know, the whole, I'm not worthy, I'm not deserving, I'm not good enough. So in answering that question, Seeing like everything around, and if you start to feel these triggers that are making you judge [00:17:00] yourself or questioning yourself, feeling maybe shame, frustration, personal judgment, that is just an indication of, okay, I'm in out of alignment. [00:17:13] Carly: With who I really am and my truth. And so the trigger is probably what needs to be worked on, like what is underneath that. But in terms of just working with the emotion and supporting you and coming back into alignment, that's where tapping is great because you just really focus on that emotion, let it be heard, accept that it's there, and. [00:17:38] Carly: Once it starts to move through, there can be another message that comes forward of, okay, where was the moment that I started to become out of alignment? What am I seeing here that makes me not feel aligned? And so it just helps us see whenever we're feeling a difficult emotion, not that it's good or it's bad, or, I [00:18:00] wanted to say that it's like what we're seeing is true, but really it's just our feelings are true. [00:18:05] Carly: That's they're really coming up, but it's just saying, Hey, you're out of alignment right now, so let's work on this so you can just come back in alignment. [00:18:12] Cara: Yeah, I mean, that's exactly why I feel like I need to take a break from social media is because it's having me put judgment on other people, and I don't like that. And so it's like I either need to remove myself from the situation, remove them from the situation, and these are people that I love, people I don't know, just all these different people that I'm like, oh, I think I need to just get back into alignment with myself. [00:18:39] Cara: Take a break, take myself out of that equation and be able to focus. On myself, and I love that there's a tool like tapping, because you know, we've talked about meditation, we talked about journaling, but I feel like tapping takes it beyond like meditation. meditation for me helps connect me to my visions. [00:18:58] Cara: What I really want, [00:19:00] but tapping actually can move the needle. What's blocking me? What's that emotion and how can I work through that? I can't do that in meditation. Meditation's a whole different tool for that, I've found that with tapping now, I haven't used it consistently enough that I felt like I've seen a big change in that. [00:19:20] Cara: So for anyone, Listening that hasn't tried it or hasn't tried it consistently. Do you have any advice for us when we're really trying to work through what we're working through and h and how do we find that thing we're trying to work through? [00:19:36] Carly: Yeah, there's so many bullet points to that question. so if, so tapping is actually really quick. actually the idea that like, I have to do this, I mean, of course everything is a practice, and so just the more that you practice it, the easier it's gonna become, the less triggered you'll become on something, especially if you're focusing on a certain thing. [00:19:59] Carly: [00:20:00] So for example, I specifically work on limiting beliefs and creating new empowering beliefs, and so working on deconstructing what that limiting belief is. That's creating all these triggers, moving towards the empowering belief typically of like the I am worthy, I am good enough. but for those who haven't really explored tapping, one of my favorite things to do is actually just tapping and breathing. [00:20:31] Carly: So a really simple exercise is just when you're noticing your emotions spike. Just in that moment, just tapping on like the body points. So I would start at the top of the head and I would just guide people through and just, okay. Take a deep breath in. [00:20:50] Carly: And just going through each point. You could even, rate it from zero to 10. What's the intensity? 10 being Yes, really intense. Zero being neutral, breathing [00:21:00] in. [00:21:00] Carly: Just going through each point. eef T stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques and it's allowing that emotion to just pass through. So if you're new, you could even just in that moment, tap on certain parts of your body. And I just led a class yesterday people were asking questions of like, is there any right or wrong way to do it? [00:21:21] Carly: And. Not really. Just if you know the points, because I even say if you have like a feel good point, so you're tapping through the body points and you're like, oh, you know, under my eyes feels really good, or under my chin or my chest, like I'll just sit here and sometimes just tap my chest. If you have a feel good point, you could just tap on that one point and just breathe and it'll naturally start to help. [00:21:47] Carly: It's so great because it really does work quite quickly. I was in a teacher meeting, every other Wednesday I facilitate tapping and empowerment and [00:22:00] vibrational alignment at a studio in Capitola, California called Breath and Oneness. And we had a teacher meeting and, you know, excitement. [00:22:10] Carly: This is, this perfectly goes to show about emotions not being good or bad because in my body I was feeling. Like nerves, which nerves could be maybe coined like a negative emotion, like. You know that fear, but at the same time there was this excitement of like, Ooh, I'm excited of what I get to share. And so there was this combination of both. [00:22:34] Carly: And just as it came to my turn to share about what I was offering, I just started tapping on my chest. I spoke it out loud. I was like, I'm excited, I'm nervous, so I'm just gonna tap to calm my body down. And I just gently tapped on my chest and started talking and it just, my body, my nervous system, instead of wanting to run, it just grounded back into my body. [00:22:59] Carly: And then I [00:23:00] was able to speak from a place of groundedness and. Everything's okay. It's all okay. So did that answer that? [00:23:09] Cara: it did. No, and I love that too, because it is something tangible you know, I always wonder when I'm tapping. In public. Like if people are like, what is she doing? Like for us? Like we're in communities where this is normal. Like we would be like, oh hey, look at you do that. I forget that some people are just not in the spirituality space and understand that there's these tools that can help us right now. [00:23:32] Empaths and Open Emotional Center: Tapping into Protection and Empowerment --- [00:23:32] Cara: And I was looking at your chart. We have something. Almost in common in the sense that both of our emotional centers are wide open. what that means is like normally we're even keels. By ourselves, but being in a room or meeting and we are susceptible to other people's emotions. [00:23:51] Cara: And so sometimes it's really hard for us because we're like, how do we deal with this? I'm sure what you were dealing with was not only your emotions, it was [00:24:00] everybody else's emotions in there. And so you having a tool right then and there that can help you process that is huge. yeah, like that's a big one. [00:24:08] Cara: And just having that like protection for yourself, going into a place of being like, okay, I am more susceptible to the excitement around me. And so I just fine with people with that. Like when we walk into a room, we can feel it. We can feel the energy. [00:24:24] Carly: Yeah. I work with a lot of empaths, and so one thing too, I'll say, if you're a beginner, a lot of people get caught up on the words like, oh, what if I'm saying the wrong thing? And I would say, Just tap on the points and say, if you can identify the emotion, great. If not, that's okay. But right here, right now, I'm safe. [00:24:43] Carly: Like, and just repeating that right here, right now, I'm safe. Or it's okay for me to be feeling this emotion right now. Right here, right now I'm safe. with what you just said about an open emotions like center in my design, Working with Empaths so much, I've had to learn on my [00:25:00] own, especially, you know, being with my husband and living together, but being around other people and absorbing other people's energy. [00:25:09] Carly: So I actually, when I'm just working with a one-to-one client, I take an emotions evaluation and how they process emotions. And with empaths because they absorb energy, I support them in saying you have to tap maybe you just hung out with somebody and then you just went home and you're feeling this like cloud or just this anxiousness, just go to the side and say, even though I'm feeling this way, I don't think it's mine and I'm just gonna give it up right now. [00:25:36] Carly: And so even though I'm feeling this emotion and it's feeling really intense, I'm feeling in my body, I really don't think this is mine and it's not my responsibility to hold onto it. So I just give it up right now and just keep tapping on that until you start to feel that release. And that is so powerful, especially when you're in relationship with somebody and you aren't empath because you're [00:26:00] naturally gonna absorb what your partner. [00:26:02] Carly: Is feeling you're in the same house, you love them, you're connected at that heart center. and so it's easy to just absorb it because we don't really recognize it. Like you said, just being in a room with people and things, and that has been so helpful. One client that I was working with, they really absorbed energy and. [00:26:21] Carly: It was just so wonderful to see them transform in terms of, they'd come back at a session and be like, I just went to a work meeting that I was like feeling so anxious about, and I came home energized, like instead of the fear because I wasn't attached to like what other people were feeling. [00:26:39] Carly: And like I actually came home energized and so, it's such a great tool for empowerment because you get to help yourself and definitely with that, and just repeating like, this energy isn't mine, so I'm just gonna give it up right now. [00:26:54] Cara: Yeah, I had a podcast episode with someone else that specializes in human design and [00:27:00] with her emotional center open, she's a little bit different. She said that she didn't really have empathy because it overwhelmed her so much, she wouldn't recognize it in someone else. And so something that helped her was just to say, I see you're feeling anxious. [00:27:13] Cara: Like just repeating back like that feeling someone else's has. It's like setting that boundary of you are the one anxious, I'm not, so I'm not gonna absorb that. And I was like, yeah, you know, it's these simple practices like sometimes I tend to complicate things and I never really thought about taking, tapping with my emotions. [00:27:32] Cara: Like I was always like, what's the problem? Let me get deep. Let me make it this big, complex thing. And just being like, oh, I'm disappointed, so I'm just gonna tap on being disappointed. My theme right now in my life is simplify. And so that really helps. [00:27:47] Cara: me to implement tap tapping more into my life of just if I am feeling emotion, I can tap it out. I can work that through. And so that's great. I love that tip. [00:27:59] Carly: Yeah, [00:28:00] it can be very simple. [00:28:02] What Happens If We Don't Process Our Emotions: Unpacking the Emotional Vortex --- [00:28:02] Cara: So what would happen if we didn't process that emotion? [00:28:05] Carly: Yeah. Really hear what you're saying about not understanding, you know, that you could use tapping for your emotions even though it's called emotional freedom techniques. But when I got certified, I really, I didn't understand emotions specifically, to how I understand them now. [00:28:22] Carly: And I took an emotions course, it's called emotional intelligence. And it's by Joanne Kim. And that was really helpful, especially when I was, I think I was going through certification at that time she was actually a client of mine. so I did freelance makeup and hair for over. [00:28:42] Carly: 14, 15, 16 years. And so she was a, client of mine and as she was telling me about her program, and I was like, this sounds amazing, especially for what I'm getting into. And so I took it and she explained the emotional vortex, and that was such a huge light bulb moment for me because [00:29:00] she explained it as when we reject an emotion. [00:29:02] Carly: So when we are feeling an emotion, and in that moment we're like, I can't feel this right now. You bring others along with it you keep like holding that down, you just keep piling it on. Like, okay, I'm feeling the shame of it. I'm feeling the judgment of it. I'm feeling the fear of it. Like, and so you create this huge vortex that has all these piles of, of emotions like swirling within it So that's why it can feel really overwhelming even thinking about going there, like even thinking about starting to deconstruct like what it is I'm feeling because it feels so big. I feel like I've heard over the last week, kind of this same word come up with clients of like, I'm going to like implode myself. [00:29:45] Carly: Like everything. It just feels so big if I even think about it. And so tapping is really great because it really brings focus to just one. Okay, let's just focus on one for right now. [00:30:00] And when we start to move through that single emotion, there's probably gonna be another one that pops up. Like, oh, I was feeling this, anger. [00:30:09] Carly: And now that I've moved through some of the anger, I'm starting to feel shame. And now that I moved through this shame, I'm starting to feel judgment. And it's this way to be able to just. Slowly unpack that vortex and move back into alignment of wellbeing because we've processed out those emotions. [00:30:30] Cara: Yeah, that makes sense. I mean, I've looked at emotions in, in the way of seeing people who ultimately don't process their emotions. Like I really, truly believe that it affects. The health, especially like I see people and I'm like, let's take a moment. Let's figure out something to help you go through that and process that. [00:30:52] Cara: And I can see that in a sense of, I just never really allowed my emotions to come through. So I [00:31:00] know in the. Time that I was brought up, like it just wasn't a big thing for us to process the emotions. [00:31:06] Cara: Like, oh, you're fine, you're okay. Like, not even like, how are you feeling? Are you scared cuz you fell? Are you hurt? You know those different ways of just giving space for what happened, it's like, just brush off, you're fine. And so I don't know if you grew up in a family or a time period of that. [00:31:25] Cara: I know you're a little bit younger than I am, so I just wondered with that. But like that was my own personal growing up. And so I see that and I have kids and so my first reaction is like, you're fine. And then I'm like, are you fine? What is happening? You know, like you can process this. I will give you space to process this. [00:31:45] Cara: And so I just wondered what your thoughts were with that, and if you have any background with that at all. [00:31:51] Carly: Yeah, I definitely same, and I don't, I don't feel that I was able to process emotions. I really remember [00:32:00] being younger Literally, I can like, feel myself just like pushing them down and just like so tense and I can feel them coming up and I'm like, no. Like bottling it and fighting it. [00:32:13] Carly: and also I've been doing a lot of shadow work recently too, and just kind of going back into these times in my life where I just talked so badly to myself, and I think that really was because of these emotions I was feeling that I didn't know how to express and to verbalize that's that. [00:32:34] Carly: Third house Gemini wound dealer. Like I didn't know how to process them. I just can see myself so tense. And so then the conversation got really heavy in my head. when I was out of high school, I moved to Los Angeles to go to makeup and hair school. I was like 17 and. [00:32:55] Carly: It was like within that year there were a few things that happened, but I [00:33:00] basically started to develop psoriasis and I didn't know what it was and there was a huge process of it. And I really painful time in my life because I went through these like physical manifestations and there's a great book. You can heal your life by Louise Hay. [00:33:21] Carly: So good. And just, it's like psoriasis is really like the deadening of our emotions, deadening of life, and not being able to process that through. And so it took me a few years to really get that under control, my psoriasis, but I broke out all over my body and it was so physically painful at that time, I really had to force myself to learn how to cry. [00:33:51] Carly: Like really just let myself cry and scream. I remember like driving to doctor's appointments and just like screaming in my car [00:34:00] and really, inviting myself, giving myself this permission to express. Even then I wasn't fully, I was still using, drugs and alcohol a lot to help myself with these emotions. [00:34:12] Carly: and I'm now sober. I am about six years sober and. It's just being able to express my emotions more and more. I mean, my psoriasis has been dormant for years, like very long time. But I keep just learning the power of emotions, and I'm even going through it right now of just some, like my body showing me areas and places that have been repressed when it comes to expression and just letting it. [00:34:47] Carly: Manifest in physical form and just literally recently, I'm going through it right now and it's been like seven days since I've been doing this shadow work, and it's actually the message I've gotten from it [00:35:00] as I do my own internal insight is like I'm punishing myself. [00:35:05] Carly: Like, Ooh, gonna start tapping, makes me emotional. but this expression of just like you're punishing yourself. And so going back and just trying to work on these times of when did I repress myself? And now finding healthy ways to express [00:35:24] Cara: Yeah, that's beautiful and powerful and like your younger self is like, Look at her. She's doing it [00:35:33] Carly: yeah, [00:35:34] Cara: were giving her everything she needed, and that's beautiful. [00:35:38] Carly: yeah. It's, it's crazy. just a short amount of time working on my wounded Kyron, and I actually, when I work with one-to-one clients, I'm always looking at their wounded kyron and like, okay, let's like really see where this core is. This deep wound, but being consciously taking action on it now, the little work that I've done so far, it's like leaps and [00:36:00] bounds in terms of greater self-expression and ease being able to express myself. [00:36:06] Carly: So yeah, my inner child's definitely like hell yeah. [00:36:10] Cara: Yeah. Now I wanna know how I can work on my wound in Chiron. What? What do I need to do? I feel like there's probably something there. Please tell me. [00:36:19] Carly: yeah, definitely. for me, Gemini is that expression and being able to process emotions and for Taurus, so much of it comes down to self-worth, really being able to connect to your own self-worth and knowing that. Material things does not determine your self-worth, but it's actually all comes from within and your spiritual practices. [00:36:45] Cara: I am an Aries Leo Rising, Gemini Moon, Gemini Moon. So those emotions that get me. [00:36:54] Carly: Yeah. [00:36:54] Proving our worth --- [00:36:54] Cara: So yeah, pretty much everything you said about my wounded Chiron and Taurus [00:37:00] is like right on the head. It's something that I've really been working on and it's funny because I like built a lot of self-worth in the beginning of my spiritual. Awakening as you call it, but I still have been like trying to prove myself along the way. And so that's where that self-worth is coming in is like I am trying to show something for it. And yeah, that's a lot of what I am just tapping into myself this summer and just really seeing what. [00:37:29] Cara: I wanna do and where I want to put my effort and my drive. And of course I'm a mom of two small kids and that's another piece of like being able to give them full. Awareness, full presence with them. And I feel like sometimes social media really can stop that because like your automatic reaction is like, oh, I have one minute to sit here. [00:37:52] Cara: Let me like pull up and scroll for a minute. And I'm not saying everybody's like that, but I found myself doing that and so I'm like, okay, how can I stop [00:38:00] this? Okay, I'm going to delete it off my phone. [00:38:02] Carly: my phone is set up to turn all my apps off at like 7:00 PM. And I will go on and be like, ignore for 15 minutes. I press that button like five times. I'm [00:38:14] Cara: Yes. Same. Yeah. Yeah, same. I was doing that too, and I'm like, obviously the things that I set up to stop me was not working, so I guess we'll just delete it off. So, yeah, I'm gonna lean into that more definitely because that is my theme of my life right now. So how can I lean into it and work with it? [00:38:34] Cara: And so another. Thing that I kind of wanna talk about. And then maybe from there you can give us like a little mini tapping session about this. [00:38:42] How our emotions effect our manifestations --- [00:38:42] Cara: But I would love to know how our emotions actually affect our manifestations, because I know you talked about it a little bit of like it was causing a manifestation of like, Not good for you, like it was coming out through your body in a bad way. [00:38:57] Cara: how can it affect our manifestations? And [00:39:00] then maybe if we did a tapping around something that you feel called to tap for. [00:39:04] Carly: Yeah, emotions affect our manifestations because it's what we're actually feeling about what we're trying to manifest you know, there's a really, I don't know if you've heard of it, but there's, I feel a really popular saying of like, be, do, have. And it's this sense of like, oh, when I'm being this, I will do this, and then I'll have like what it is that I want, but it's really come to my attention that. [00:39:30] Carly: We have to actually know where we are first. You can't just like fall into this. and I think what happens is we try to convince ourself that we are being, that, you know, by writing the goals, saying what we want, you know, putting it down on paper. But what we're actually feeling about it is what's showing up. [00:39:49] Carly: And so if it's not showing up, that's because. We don't feel good about it and it's hard to just like be when we [00:40:00] don't know where we are first. So we have to really know like, what do I feel about this? What's the emotions that come up? and then with that, I feel that the next step is also redefining. [00:40:13] Carly: How we think about things and feel about things. And so for example, for June, the June Journal reflection questions, That I have, I just did it. And my focus was, I really wanted to focus on what is the goals for the next six months. Like we're officially mid-year, so let's explore, like what was it that we kind of set up that we wanted to create, what came up, what didn't? [00:40:38] Carly: And then I focused on the word commitment and. Had everyone go through and write down like all the yucks of the word commitment. Like when you say the word commitment, what are all the yucky like thoughts, feelings you have around this single word? Because we have to be committed[00:41:00] to. Move towards the things that we want. [00:41:03] Carly: And it was so powerful, the, the list, like a huge list by the end that all of us were com I was compiling all of our words and what we thought about it. and just looking at that, it's like, no wonder it's hard for us to commit because we have this, these emotions, these feelings. And thoughts attached to this word. [00:41:28] Carly: So, emotions impact our manifestations, because if you are saying, yes, I want to make x, y, Z a year, I want my awesome relationship, my cosmic relationship, I want, whatever it may be, and we're writing it down, but the feeling behind it. Is like, I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. I can't express myself. [00:41:51] Carly: And all the feelings that are attached to that shame judgment, we're carrying the memories of the past. That's what's gonna show up in our [00:42:00] life, and that is where it can become really discouraging. Because we don't understand the impact of emotions and so we're just looking externally at our current life situation and just saying like, this is all there is like I've tried everything. [00:42:16] Carly: This is to the power of just like beliefs and emotions is like, I've tried everything. The do, they're like everyone's, we're all stuck in the do. If I do this, then X, we're not in that like emotional. Vibration alignment, then it's just not gonna happen. [00:42:31] Commitment as a Manifesting Generator --- [00:42:31] Cara: Yeah. Yeah, that makes sense. I mean, you said the word commitment and I was like, Ooh, [00:42:36] Carly: Yeah. [00:42:36] Cara: don't like it. And then I realized a lot of the things that I was working towards, that's exactly what was blocking me. So I will write that down for my tapping session. [00:42:47] Carly: Oh, I am a huge commitment phobe. I mean, that honestly is one of the, I feel like, When it comes to Gemini, because it's like this air sign, it's like, I wanna be free, I wanna have fun. And I'm a Gemini [00:43:00] rising, so I have like my wounded healer in Gemini. I'm a Gemini rising. and I love my freedom and like when I was, before I was gonna get married, I was having. [00:43:12] Carly: Mental and emotional breakdowns because I was so afraid of the commitment, like this is gonna be forever. It's why I don't, one of the reasons why I don't have any tattoos, because I'm like, wait, all my body forever, like it just freaks me out. So I've had to do a lot of work around my relationship to commitment and what that. [00:43:34] Carly: What that means for me. And even that day, I came up with new words. Like I knew I wanted to focus on that that month, but just the night before, I'm very connected to my dreams. I have very prophetic dreams and I had this dream that just brought up these feelings and I was like, oh yeah, like when I think of commitment, I think of betrayal. [00:43:52] Carly: I think of mistrust. I think of like pain for myself.[00:44:00] And so just being able to really look at how do I feel about these words is really powerful. And yeah, I would invite anyone who's listening to this to think about how they relate to commitment and just all the yucks, like, what are all the yucks about this word that I'm feeling? [00:44:17] Cara: Yeah, I was really connected to Overcommitting myself before my spiritual awakening, and then when I realized I was a manifesting generator, which you are as well, and that we have a sacral response, like we aren't really meant to commit to things. Like, it's more of a like, do I get a uhhuh? Or do I get a Uhuh? [00:44:36] Cara: And knowing that that can change. And so I think once I learned that that's how my design is and people ask me to do things, I'm like, I don't know. I'm not gonna give you an answer. So I went from Overcommitting and burning myself out. So I just wonder like that being a manifesting generator with our Sacral, like that's how we should make decisions. [00:44:56] Cara: Like when we realize that it is hard because we really aren't [00:45:00] meant to fully commit to anything because our energy is just always moving and going [00:45:04] Carly: That makes, I appreciate you saying that because I remember when, I was going through my certification and my mentors were getting just talking about the business side of things and like, oh, you gotta really commit to a very specific niche. And I drove myself crazy and I'm honestly still a part of me is like, feels that tension. [00:45:26] Carly: But I think I finally have come to a place where I'm like, okay, if I can commit to. A mission that is a little broad [00:45:36] Carly: and le leaves room and space for me to move within it, I still need to commit to something [00:45:44] Cara: Yeah. [00:45:44] Carly: like, and I think that's the challenge, is that balance of like, okay, remembering that definitely when I've committed to something, I've received freedom. [00:45:52] Carly: I have to keep reminding myself, like my relationship, I'm the most free I've ever been in my relationship. and I thought that was something [00:46:00] that would be taken away from me. when it comes to my business, like I get to be open with that too. And why I was like, okay, if I just have this mission of just, I wanna help women become emotionally free. [00:46:11] Carly: And empower them, turn their limitations into possibilities and really just help them shine. I could do that in so many different ways. [00:46:20] Cara: Yes. [00:46:21] Carly: So [00:46:22] Carly: that has been a journey. [00:46:23] Cara: I hated the whole niche factor of the business. I hated it. And I was like, I can't. I can't. And, and I realized the connection with mine. It's like helping people understand how they're designed so that they can be the best version of themselves. And it's like, oh, that's how it's all connected, but it leaves the possibility of that flowing to differently for everyone. [00:46:44] Cara: knowing that we are built this way and that there's not anything wrong with us and that who's telling us that we have to niche, they're probably not a manifesting generator. [00:46:53] Cara: All right. Well if you're up for it, would you do like a little tapping session for us, and then we can dive into your [00:47:00] offerings and how everybody can find you. [00:47:01] EFT session with Carly --- [00:47:01] Carly: maybe I'll just do a just kind of general, like how would one support themselves if they were feeling an emotion, kind of going through that. And then I can do a little bit of empowerment well. we'll pull on this This Taurus and Chiron. [00:47:16] Carly: Alright. So if you haven't tapped before, I'm just gonna go through the points really quickly to understand. But there is the side of the hand, and it doesn't matter which side that you work on, if you change sides in the middle. It's fine. It doesn't matter because it's The meridian points, we're working on the same meridian points that acupuncturists use, so based on Chinese medicine and in our body, and so we're just activating these meridians as we are tapping on them. [00:47:46] Carly: And there's tons of meridians. So the ones I usually focus on are just a few, I usually do the side of the hand, the top of the head. The eyebrow point, like right [00:48:00] where the edge of your, the front of your eyebrows, and again, sometimes I do both hands and sometimes I just do one and it's fine. [00:48:10] Carly: Whatever feels good side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, under the chin. Collarbone, like right underneath the collarbone and then under your arm, kind of right above like or next to your ribs. And so I would consider that to be one round and just for extra support. there's points on the hand as well, and I do a lot of visualization with. [00:48:40] Carly: Myself, but also with clients. And so this is actually points that you can do when you're in public it's much more or less discreet. So like just the tip of your finger. I'm not gonna do these points as we're tapping today, but just to show and let people know that at the tip of your finger on the side are points and you can [00:49:00] just go at your own pace. [00:49:01] Carly: And so, you know, if you're at dinner you can do this under the table and it's just not as noticeable. I was like, you know, hitting your chest. So that is just some extra points for you. But we're gonna start at the side of the hand and. A lot of this is really just bringing acceptance to what it is that we're feeling. [00:49:26] Carly: So if you wanna go ahead and just think of maybe an emotion that is present right now, and it's a little uncomfortable, and you could even rate the intensity of it from zero to 10. 10 being this feels really intense, zero being neutral. And just really tuning in to this emotion. Maybe you're feeling it somewhere in your body. Maybe there's even a color or a texture to it. And I'm actually curious, Cara, is there any emotion [00:50:00] that's present for you right now? [00:50:01] Cara: I just, I felt restrictive. [00:50:03] Carly: Hmm. [00:50:04] Cara: I, and I feel like my thought was, yeah, like the commitment. [00:50:08] Carly: Oh yeah, let's just bring this in because we're gonna believe this is a group conscious thing that's happening right now. And so whoever's listening to this is like, yes, restriction and commitment. I am feeling that as well. So do you feel it anywhere in your body? [00:50:26] Cara: Yeah, like my ribs, like my upper ribs. [00:50:29] Carly: Yeah. Okay. So for anyone who's listening, you can use a different emotion. You can say out loud the location on your body that you're feeling it, but this is what you can start to practice and just moving through these emotions. So you would say, even though I feel restrictive, [00:50:52] Cara: Even though I feel restrictive, [00:50:54] Carly: And maybe it's about this idea of commitment [00:50:58] Cara: maybe it's this [00:51:00] idea. [00:51:00] Carly: and I feel it in my upper ribs and I'm just gonna acknowledge that it's there. [00:51:05] Cara: And I'm gonna acknowledge that. [00:51:07] Carly: I'm gonna honor that it's there. And honestly, Cara, you can say it out loud too, I think it'll be good. And I still deeply and completely, [00:51:16] Cara: And I still deeply and completely. [00:51:19] Carly: and you get to really change the statement around if this feels uncomfortable. but I'm gonna invite that to say this. I deeply and completely love and accept myself. [00:51:30] Cara: I deeply and completely love and accept myself, [00:51:34] Carly: And so even though I feel restrictive, [00:51:37] Cara: and even though I feel restrictive, [00:51:40] Carly: And maybe it's related to commitment [00:51:42] Cara: and maybe it's related to commitment [00:51:45] Carly: and the things that I want to create, [00:51:48] Cara: and the things that I want to create, [00:51:49] Carly: the things that I wanna manifest, [00:51:52] Cara: The things I wanna manifest, [00:51:54] Carly: but there's this feeling of restriction in my body. [00:51:58] Cara: there's this feeling of [00:52:00] restriction in my body [00:52:01] Carly: I really feel it in my upper ribs. [00:52:03] Cara: and I really feel it in my upper ribs, [00:52:06] Carly: And I'm just gonna acknowledge that it's there [00:52:08] Cara: and I'm gonna acknowledge that it's there [00:52:10] Carly: and honor it, [00:52:11] Cara: and honor it. [00:52:13] Carly: that it's okay that I'm feeling this way right now [00:52:16] Cara: It's okay that I'm feeling this way right now, [00:52:19] Carly: and I still deeply and completely [00:52:21] Cara: that I still deeply and completely [00:52:24] Carly: love and accept myself, [00:52:26] Cara: love and accept myself, [00:52:27] Carly: I'm just gonna honor what I'm feeling right now. [00:52:30] Cara: and I'm just gonna honor what I'm feeling right now, [00:52:32] Carly: So even though I'm feeling this restriction [00:52:35] Cara: even though I'm feeling this restriction [00:52:38] Carly: and I'm feeling it in my body, [00:52:39] Cara: and I'm feeling it in my body. [00:52:41] Carly: I'm just gonna acknowledge that I notice it [00:52:44] Cara: And I'm just gonna acknowledge that I notice it [00:52:47] Carly: and that it's safe to be here. [00:52:49] Cara: and that it's safe to be here. [00:52:51] Carly: It's okay for me to feel it right now. [00:52:53] Cara: It's okay for me to feel it right now. [00:52:56] Carly: I still deeply and completely love and accept myself, [00:52:59] Cara: I [00:53:00] still deeply and completely love and accept myself, [00:53:03] Carly: and I'm just gonna honor that it's here. [00:53:06] Cara: and I'm gonna honor that it's here. [00:53:08] Carly: I'm gonna honor that. This is what I'm feeling right now. [00:53:10] Cara: I'm gonna honor that. This is what I'm feeling right now. [00:53:14] Carly: And so moving to the top of the head, we're just tuning into this feeling of restriction. I'm feeling this restriction. [00:53:20] Cara: I'm feeling this restriction. [00:53:23] Carly: I'm feeling it in my body [00:53:25] Cara: I'm feeling it in my body. [00:53:27] Carly: eyebrow points. I'm feeling this restriction. [00:53:30] Cara: I'm feeling this restriction. [00:53:32] Carly: It's okay for me to feel this way, [00:53:34] Cara: And it's okay for me to feel this way. [00:53:37] Carly: side of the eye. It's okay and safe for me to feel this restriction. [00:53:41] Cara: It's okay and safe for me to feel this restriction [00:53:44] Carly: Under the eye because that's just where I'm at [00:53:47] Cara: ' cause that's just where I'm at [00:53:48] Carly: under the nose. That's just what I'm feeling [00:53:51] Cara: because that's just what I'm feeling [00:53:53] Carly: under the nose. I'm just feeling this restriction [00:53:55] Cara: and this feeling is restriction. I. [00:53:58] Carly: under the collarbone, [00:54:00] and that's okay. [00:54:00] Cara: And that's okay. [00:54:02] Carly: It's okay for me to feel this right now. [00:54:04] Cara: It's okay for me to feel this right now. [00:54:07] Carly: In fact, it's safe for me to feel this right now [00:54:09] Cara: It's safe for me to feel this right now. [00:54:13] Carly: under the arm. I'm just feeling this restriction. [00:54:15] Cara: I'm just feeling this restriction. [00:54:17] Carly: Okay, so that would be really just like one round and just really tuning into the emotion and creating a little bit of space. And less charge. So just as you tuned into that, how are you feeling right now [00:54:35] Cara: I feel like I'm buzzing because my whole body is buzzing right now. [00:54:39] Carly: Writing down, writing the intensity from zero to 10 is really helpful. Like in the beginning to just get an idea of, okay, where am I at Again, really like the no, like what am I feeling? Where am I at? What's the intensity? So do you feel that the intensity has decreased and the restriction. [00:54:59] Cara: I [00:55:00] feel like it's decreased. but I also feel like, like I feel like I need to move my body more today. And so like, I feel like that's the case is like what I've been doing today has been restricting me, and so getting into some more movement after this call I think is necessary. [00:55:16] Carly: Yeah. I love that. Okay. Listen in, or let's just, let's do a little bit. So I would keep doing that. For those of you who are listening, I would keep doing that until you really start to. Feel that reduction and also like what you had is that can happen is when you start to release these, this emotion insights come up of like, oh, I need to like move my body. [00:55:38] Carly: it gives you that direction. I say get out of your head and tap into your heart, like you really get outta your head and all of a sudden these insights from your heart, from your. Truth from your center, like come up, they like bubble up because you're. [00:55:53] Carly: Not so focused on the discomfort and it creates a space of like insight. So, that [00:56:00] could happen also any burping, gas, yawning or all side effects of tapping. So if you notice yourself like, oh my God, I'm like crazy yawning. Or recently I've been burping a lot as I tap, just know that that's okay. and drinking water is also really important as. Keep doing that until you feel less of your emotion. And then I always like to end with empowerment, so I'm already burping ing so much. [00:56:27] Cara: I burped too. I was trying yes. [00:56:30] Carly: okay, bringing in this form of manifestation of like, what do we wanna ask for? So what is maybe something that you want to ask for that we can actually even bring into this, like empowerment tapping. and I like to say, imagine you're asking your best, best friend who would never say no to you and you want support. And moving towards whatever it is that you're trying to create. So for example, like I need to move after this call. A perfect thing you can ask for is like, today I ask for support and just getting [00:57:00] movement. And it's crazy when we just make these little requests, these little asks, how much easier it happens and it shows up. [00:57:07] Carly: Is there anything you wanna ask for today? [00:57:08] Cara: I feel like I just want. Clarity on where to put my commitments. [00:57:14] Carly: Yeah. Okay. I'm writing this down. so in the journal there's a section What do I ask today? I ask for, and then also, today I'm gonna practice vibrating. And that is bringing awareness of, okay, what do I get to vibrate? you can ask yourself when I think of what it is I'm asking for. So think that. [00:57:32] Carly: having clarity can be a vibration, but also like imagine that you're feeling this sense of clarity. you know where to go, you know, where you want to put your energy. And feeling committed. Committed could be actually another vibration. How does it feel? So like imagining that you're doing all that, how is it making you feel thinking about that? [00:57:53] Carly: You're feeling clear, you're, you're committed, you're taking all these actions. You know where to go, what's coming up for you. [00:57:59] Cara: I [00:58:00] feel free and inspired to take action. [00:58:03] Carly: Yeah. Perfect. So then there's a box in the journal of, what do I wanna do today? I always say, do then activities that already help you to feel free. That already help you to feel inspired because that's what's gonna move you into that vibration. So is there anything that you know like that makes you free? [00:58:23] Carly: Feel free and inspired. [00:58:25] Cara: I'm gonna go for a walk after this [00:58:26] Carly: Okay, [00:58:27] Cara: yes. Yep. [00:58:28] Carly: perfect. Okay. You can even just for that sake too, like kind of do just some like moving your body now, just even like some motions and we can just, As you're doing the empowerment and you can kind of move your body as you're doing it, so you feel this greater sense of like freedom and inhibition. [00:58:44] Carly: So feel, do whatever feels good to you. But sometimes I'm just kind of like, oh, okay. Move into my body a little bit. So I'm gonna take, take a sip of something. Yummy some water, because when, wherever we're tapping, it is a somatic practice, so we're changing our cellular structure and it's [00:59:00] really good to hydrate. We'll just go to the side of the hand again and repeat, even though I was feeling restrictive. [00:59:07] Cara: Even though I was feeling restrictive, [00:59:09] Carly: Just thinking about this idea of commitment, [00:59:13] Cara: just thinking about this idea of commitment, [00:59:16] Carly: and I was feeling it in my body, [00:59:18] Cara: feeling it in my body, [00:59:19] Carly: feeling this tension, [00:59:21] Cara: feeling the tension. [00:59:22] Carly: but I'm proud of myself for just giving it some attention. [00:59:26] Cara: I'm proud of myself for giving it some attention. [00:59:29] Carly: Because it may just needed some love, [00:59:32] Cara: I may just need some love, [00:59:34] Carly: some acceptance, [00:59:37] Cara: some acceptance [00:59:39] Carly: and when I was able to give myself this acceptance, [00:59:43] Cara: when I'm able to give myself this acceptance. I. [00:59:47] Carly: I started buzzing. [00:59:48] Cara: I started buzzing. [00:59:49] Carly: I could feel the movement in my body again. [00:59:53] Cara: I could feel the movement in my body again, [00:59:55] Carly: And so even though this may be a new concept to me [00:59:58] Cara: even though this may be a [01:00:00] new concept for me [01:00:01] Carly: to explore my emotions, [01:00:03] Cara: to explore my emotions, [01:00:06] Carly: because they can feel really big sometimes, [01:00:09] Cara: because I can feel really big sometimes. I. [01:00:11] Carly: I'm just gonna try to be open. [01:00:13] Cara: I'm just gonna try to be open [01:00:15] Carly: To exploring them one emotion at a time, [01:00:19] Cara: to exploring them one emotion at a time, [01:00:22] Carly: knowing that emotions are neither good or bad. [01:00:27] Cara: knowing that emotions are neither good or bad. [01:00:30] Carly: They're just a communication system, [01:00:32] Cara: They're just a communication system. [01:00:35] Carly: and that's really empowering. [01:00:37] Cara: And that's really empowering. [01:00:39] Carly: What if I could just think of my emotions [01:00:42] Cara: What if I can just think of my emotions [01:00:45] Carly: as a really good friend [01:00:47] Cara: as a really good friend [01:00:49] Carly: who is calling me up [01:00:51] Cara: who's calling me up? [01:00:53] Carly: and saying, you are unaligned. [01:00:55] Cara: You are on the lines. [01:00:57] Carly: You are misaligned girlfriend.[01:01:00] [01:01:00] Cara: You are misaligned [01:01:02] Carly: And so I wanna help you come back in alignment [01:01:05] Cara: and I wanna help you come back into alignment [01:01:08] Carly: and we get to answer that call [01:01:10] Cara: and we get to answer that call [01:01:11] Carly: when I'm feeling that emotion. [01:01:14] Cara: when I'm feeling that emotion. [01:01:15] Carly: I can now practice this tool [01:01:18] Cara: I can now practice this tool. [01:01:20] Carly: that is literally at my fingertips. [01:01:22] Cara: It's literally at my fingertips [01:01:25] Carly: And just let the emotion know that I see it, [01:01:29] Cara: and let the emotion know that I see it, [01:01:31] Carly: that I hear it, [01:01:33] Cara: that I hear it, [01:01:34] Carly: that I'm gonna accept it [01:01:36] Cara: that I'm gonna accept it [01:01:38] Carly: and love it too. [01:01:40] Cara: and love it too. [01:01:41] Carly: And so even though this may be a process [01:01:44] Cara: Even though this may be a process [01:01:47] Carly: and it may take practice, [01:01:49] Cara: and it may take practice, [01:01:51] Carly: I am just gonna try to be open [01:01:53] Cara: I'm just gonna try to be open [01:01:55] Carly: because if this really works, [01:01:57] Cara: because if this really works, [01:01:59] Carly: [01:02:00] I have a tool at my fingertips [01:02:02] Cara: I'm gonna have a tool at my fingertips. [01:02:04] Carly: that's gonna offer me emotional freedom [01:02:07] Cara: That's gonna offer me emotional freedom [01:02:10] Carly: and help me come back into alignment. [01:02:13] Cara: and help me come back into alignment [01:02:15] Carly: With who I really am. [01:02:17] Cara: like with who I really am. [01:02:19] Carly: So we're gonna move to the top ahead and just say some nice affirmations about ourself, what we want saying, I am worthy. [01:02:27] Cara: I am worthy. [01:02:28] Carly: I, I am deserving [01:02:31] Cara: I am deserving. [01:02:32] Carly: side of the eye. I am good enough. [01:02:35] Cara: I am good enough. [01:02:36] Carly: Under the eye, I am lovable [01:02:39] Cara: I am lovable. [01:02:40] Carly: under the nose. I was born this way, [01:02:43] Cara: I was born this way [01:02:44] Carly: the chin, and even though I may have had experiences [01:02:48] Cara: even though I may have had experiences. [01:02:50] Carly: where I didn't feel that way, [01:02:52] Cara: Where I didn't feel that way, [01:02:54] Carly: it doesn't mean it's true [01:02:56] Cara: it doesn't mean it's true. [01:02:57] Carly: because I was born worthy.[01:03:00] [01:03:00] Cara: I was born worthy. [01:03:01] Carly: I was born deserving, [01:03:03] Cara: I was born deserving, [01:03:05] Carly: and I was born good enough. [01:03:06] Cara: and I was born good enough. [01:03:08] Carly: So what if I just played with that for today, [01:03:12] Cara: What if we just played with that for today, [01:03:14] Carly: this idea that I'm already worthy, deserving, and good enough. [01:03:20] Cara: this idea that I'm worthy and good enough. [01:03:23] Carly: If I approached my life this way, [01:03:25] Cara: If I approached my life this way, [01:03:28] Carly: what would I create? [01:03:30] Cara: what would I create? [01:03:31] Carly: How would I feel? [01:03:32] Cara: How would I feel? [01:03:34] Carly: I think I'd feel a sense of clarity, [01:03:36] Cara: I feel like I would feel a sense of clarity, [01:03:39] Carly: commitment. [01:03:41] Cara: commitment, [01:03:42] Carly: Freedom [01:03:43] Cara: freedom, [01:03:44] Carly: and inspiration. [01:03:46] Cara: and inspiration. [01:03:47] Carly: So I'm so proud of myself for just exploring these emotions today, [01:03:52] Cara: I'm proud of myself for exploring these emotions today. I. [01:03:55] Carly: and I'm open to really seeing them. [01:03:59] Cara: [01:04:00] And I am open to really seeing them [01:04:02] Carly: And letting them be heard [01:04:03] Cara: and letting them be heard [01:04:05] Carly: so that I can create more emotional freedom [01:04:08] Cara: so I can create more emotional freedom [01:04:11] Carly: and vibrate some amazing good feels, [01:04:16] Cara: and vibrate some amazing good feels. [01:04:19] Carly: become a magnet to what it is that I really want. [01:04:22] Cara: Become a magnet to what I really want [01:04:24] Carly: I am just giving myself that emotional freedom [01:04:27] Cara: and giving myself that emotional freedom. [01:04:30] Carly: because guess what? I am worthy. [01:04:33] Cara: ' cause I am worthy, [01:04:34] Carly: I am deserving, [01:04:36] Cara: I am deserving, [01:04:38] Carly: and I am good enough. [01:04:39] Cara: and I am good enough. [01:04:40] Carly: And now I know that emotions are the only thing that might be gaining in the way. [01:04:45] Cara: And now I know my emotions are the only thing getting in the way. [01:04:49] Carly: And once I give it some attention, [01:04:51] Cara: And once I give it some attention, [01:04:53] Carly: they move through, [01:04:55] Cara: they move through [01:04:56] Carly: and then I can experience a sense of freedom, [01:04:59] Cara: [01:05:00] and then I can experience a sense of freedom. [01:05:02] Carly: this release from fear [01:05:05] Cara: This release from fear, I. [01:05:06] Carly: and stand in my power. [01:05:09] Cara: Stand in my power. [01:05:11] Carly: So I think I'm ready to live that today. [01:05:13] Cara: So I think I'm ready to live that today. [01:05:15] Carly: I'm ready to live into my power [01:05:18] Cara: I'm ready to live in my power [01:05:20] Carly: because it's already within me. [01:05:23] Cara: because it's already within me. [01:05:25] Carly: I was already born worthy. [01:05:27] Cara: I was already born worthy. [01:05:29] Carly: I was already born good enough. [01:05:31] Cara: I was already born good enough. [01:05:34] Carly: I was already born deserving and lovable. [01:05:37] Cara: I was already born, deserving and lovable, [01:05:40] Carly: And so I'm gonna take on that story now [01:05:43] Cara: so I'm going to take on that story now. [01:05:45] Carly: and just tapping through the points, just really kind of start to imagine yourself embodying those feelings, remembering who you really are. And just tapping at wherever you want your own pace. Maybe it's a feel good spot, and just [01:06:00] tuning into that sense of, I was already born this way. [01:06:03] Cara: I was [01:06:04] Carly: I was already born worthy and deserving. [01:06:08] Carly: Good enough and lovable, and just feeling that into your body. Maybe you feel this pillar of light. That is at your solar plexus and it's just vibrating and it's shooting up, hitting all of the upper chakras, going up through your head and into the cosmos, and down into your lower chakra is rooting into the ground and into the earth, and just feeling that sense of I am already worthy. I am already deserving. I am already good enough feeling released from restriction, and knowing that you're free. You're free now, and just feeling that strength. You are ready. You can just bring that light back into your center. You can slowly stop [01:07:00] tapping. Maybe you even just rub your chest a little, just feeling that center. And then you can take a nice deep breath in and exhale out. You can start to just open your eyes. Thank you for tapping with me. [01:07:15] Cara: Oh, thank you so much. I mean, I feel rejuvenated. That was awesome. Thank you so much. [01:07:21] Carly: You welcome. You ready to go on your walk? [01:07:24] Cara: I am, before I do that, I would love for you to let. Viewers know what your current offerings are and how they can find you. [01:07:32] Carly: I'm al I'm like sweating by the way. That's just like when I'm tapping, I'm like, I'm sweating. It's moving through me. so right now you can go to my [email protected] I have two offers, but the main one is the Explore and Manifest program, and that is a program designed to really see where it is that you're stuck, where are you currently [01:08:00] stuck, and let's uncover what is getting in the way and get you unstuck and realigned with what it. I do bring in astrology and numerology. So again, looking at those core wounds, where do you really get to use your chart to play and to see where your creativity can come in, and really get un unstuck. And then you also get the reflect vibrate and manifest journal. And that will support you with the journey as well in doing our work together. [01:08:33] Carly: but it's a great program to uncover kind of what those core wounds are, especially you know, there's something getting in the way. You're not quite sure, or maybe you are quite sure, and now hearing this and those beliefs of, I'm not worthy, I'm not deserving, I'm not good enough. [01:08:48] Carly: you know, one of those are running right now and you're like, I just need to break through this a little bit. So not a little bit, but a lot and create space and create the new belief because when we create the new [01:09:00] belief and move towards that, then that's when things. Start to release a lot of the old stories, experiences, paradigms that we had connected to the, I'm not worthy, I'm not deserving, I'm not good enough. [01:09:14] Carly: And then I am mostly active on Instagram. So you can go to at Carly Lynn Wise, so c a r l y. L Y N W I SS E and that's my Instagram. And I usually share what I'm doing there. And then if you're in California and you're in the Santa Cruz area, I facilitate classes every first and third Wednesday. [01:09:38] Carly: At the studio breath and oneness in Capitola. it's an hour long, so there's a 12 to one and then a five 30 to six 30 class and you can come join me in person there. And that's group tapping. I'm really excited. I just. Edited what this class was gonna be. And so there's the empowerment, tapping, visualization. [01:09:59] Carly: I think I'm [01:10:00] actually might include a little bit of like breath work, but they're always gonna be different. But with the focus of, okay, let's create emotional freedom and vibrational alignment, kind of a, I think of it as like a spiritual tuneup. Like you just need some support getting back realigned. [01:10:14] Cara: Yeah, I love all that and I'll make sure all your offerings are in the show notes so you can, check below this episode to connect with Carly. And I just thank you so much for coming on and that beautiful tapping session. [01:10:28] Carly: Thank you. Thank you so much for having me, and I'm excited to share this and just forever be connected now. [01:10:35] Cara: yes. Well, thank you so much and we'll chat soon. [01:10:38] Cara: Thank you so much for joining me this week. If this was your first time. Welcome. And if you joined me for previous episodes, thank you so much for coming back before you go. Please share my podcast with a friend or subscribe if you haven't yet. [01:10:51] Cara: Those few seconds make a huge impact on my podcast and I'd be grateful for the support. [01:10:56] Cara: I absolutely love this interview with Carly wise. If you [01:11:00] want to find out how to connect with her, check the show notes and all the links mentioned. And the episode will [email protected] slash 74 things for being here and we'll chat [01:11:10] Cara: soon