NOTE: This podcast was transcribed by an AI tool. Please forgive any typos or errors. Sara Beard Cara: [00:00:00] And this episode, I break down my friend, Sara is human design chart. It was a life-changing. Tool that I've used in my home and work life. And I want to share it along with those around me. Sara always brings a fun little spin to things. So stay tuned to the end for some bloopers. I can't wait to dive in with you guys INTRO: Welcome to floductivity, a place to inspire and empower women to embrace self-love and self-development for the perfect balance of productivity. I'm your host, Cara Dempsey. And I share ways to connect to your intuition through self care cycle planning, spirituality, wellness, and everything in between. Thank you so much for joining me this week. If this is your first time. Welcome. And if you've been with me here before, thank you so much for coming back. I'm so excited to join you in this journey. As we learn together.[00:01:00] Cara: I am so excited to bring on my next guests. Sarah describes herself as a lover of people, secret relationships with depth, unapologetic, snuggler. I met Sarah almost 10 years ago when I first moved to Raleigh. She was my mentor at the salon I worked at, but I quickly found she was much more than that. She has helped me through some hard times and always let me a shoulder to cry on Sarah. And I both love anything that has to do with tools that help us figure out who we are and how to best utilize our gifts like personality, tests, astrology, and anything of the sort I wanted to bring Sarah on and introduce her to the concept of human design. This tool has changed my life and I know it can help. So many people feel understood while teaching them how to use their design in their life. For more purpose and ease. you Sarah, for taking a blind chance on this concept with me today, and I'm grateful to have you the show. Sara: I'm so glad to be here. I love you so much. Your intro made me want to cry and I love that we've been in each other's lives for 10 years. Yay. I'm so glad to do this too. I always like to find [00:02:00] something new. I also imagine like, in my head, once this intro happened, that it was like Oprah, like Sarah. Cara: She is here. I would love to know if there's any self care practices that are non-negotiable for you. Sara: Okay. sleep is my number one. It is non-negotiable. I love sleep. I love dreaming. a lot of things in my life are, are negotiable. I am not a very disciplined person and I get obsessed with things and then I move on. But I do find that there's a handful of things that I always come back to. So, painting is a self-care thing for me. having another creative outlet as a hairdresser, I never thought I would do. Another source of creativity, but you. Sara: get used to something as your job. So, I feel so good when I paint, being with my family is a huge self-care thing for me. And then I work with a shaman that I really, really love, and she's been a part of my life for probably 12 years [00:03:00] and acupuncture. she's also been a part of my life for 12 years. I cannot recommend these people enough. I love them. Shout out to Terry and Hetty, and water being in it, drinking it, whatever I love it. Cara: Awesome. Yeah. Shout out to Terry and heady. They both awesome. I've seen them both they've helped me so much in this journey. So shout out to them, I'll put their information in the show notes. Sara: Yes. Cara: I love all that. And I think a lot of people think self-care has to be X, Y, and Z, and bringing out that creativity is a huge part of self care. It's of connecting to that inner child that, know, sometimes we get to be an adult and we forget that existed. And, you Sara: Yeah, Cara: that out is a huge thing. Sara: my inner child has, some trauma that I've been working through for years and painting helps us connect, you know, like I, I enjoy it. It does feel very childlike. It feels very free. no expectations. sometimes I try and monetize things that I enjoy or like make them into a [00:04:00] competition and I ultimately them for myself. So I try not to do that anymore. Like I try to just do things for joy and not for purpose. Cara: Yeah, I think that's important. I get that it'd be in an Aries. competitive is in my nature. Sara: Yeah. Cara: you know, sometimes we need to take that expectation of doing that. I had to do that for photography. I love Sara: Yes. Cara: but anytime I had to think I had to do it for someone else, it completely put out that fire. And so I kind of put a line for that. Sara: I think we just get lost sometimes. And I think as part of our culture and our society is like, do your best and then do better, go harder grind, grind, grind, and like I'm So over all that shit. Cara: me too, know, I love productivity, but I'm trying to balance it with self care. It's , Yeah. of taking that hustle culture Sara: Yes. Cara: it's going away. Sorry to break it to you guys. Sara: Well, I've, disentangled myself worth from my productivity and that has been one of the greatest gifts I've ever. Like [00:05:00] given myself, I love what I do, but I used to really define myself by my work, my status, you know, there was a lot of ego involved in those things, even though I feel like a humble person, I really fed off of continuing to climb the ladder. And once, I mean, the one gift of the panty was like being at home, realizing that I had not given myself self care. In years or like, listen to my body, woke up when my body wanted to wake up, eat. When my body wants to eat drinking water, walking around my neighborhood, with nature, all those things. I was like, whoa, not being on my phone as much. I don't know it was a life-changing experience. And I don't want to take away from how hard it has been. I don't want to take away from the lives that have been lost. And you know, what a difficult time this has been in general, but that was a positive for me out of this situation. Cara: I feel exactly the same. I felt like I had to not have anything planned on my schedule for my mind to finally like shut down and listen to my [00:06:00] body because I feel like I went my whole life without actually listening to it. And then once I started to listen to it, I was like, oh, wow. Sara: I think it is amazing. And like your inner intuition in your actual body. I was talking to my therapist the other day. I have a binge-eating disorder and I didn't know. I just thought I was somebody who comfort ate. I didn't know. There was some kind of disorder associated with it. And I also recently just found out that I am a type two diabetic. I felt. Sick for the past two years. And No, matter what I did or tried, I just couldn't feel better. And so it was kind of a devastating diagnosis initially, and I felt some shame around it because I've always been overweight or in a larger body, I think is the nicer way to say that. And so I felt some shame, like I did this to myself and, you know, like we can be so unkind to ourselves, but I was talking to my therapist about it. , she was like, well, what would you want to tell your body? And I was like, that, I'm sorry that I heard you screaming all these years. And I just, in a position to listen to you to do what we needed to [00:07:00] do together. And that has been like a really powerful movement and like being, I don't want to say force, but like, this is now a serious, I have Cara: Yeah. Sara: disease. So like I'm sitting up, I'm listening, I'm doing the things that I need to do. And I already feel so much better, but it had, I listened to had I slowed down and listened to my body. I might've been in a different position or at least found out sooner. Cara: Yeah. And I'm sorry that you're going through that And so I'm trying to be mindful of that. And I didn't realize that, a lot of when I wasn't feeling well, it was my blood sugar, took me stopping to say, wow, okay, what do I eat? That, that does not make me feel so good Sara: Yes. Cara: it's affecting me in different ways. Sara: Over the past two years, I've missed more work than I ever have. I've been more depressed than I ever have. I've been in situations where I felt financially unstable, which I've never felt before. And then that kind of creates its own anxiety cycle. But once I found out and like, , it was honestly such a relief. Like there's a diagnosis, there's a treatment plan. I have a doctor that I love. She sent me up with a nutritionist. [00:08:00] And what was the biggest thing? I, you know, went on Pinterest, like looked at diabetes, cause I didn't really know that much about it. And this chart came up with a body on it and it went through all the different systems in your body and how diabetes can affect that. So it was like migraines, high blood pressure, anxiety, depression, fog, vision, change, muscle fatigue, extreme fatigue. And I was like, check, check, check, check, check, check, check. It was literally everything. And so now adjusting to the medications and the things that I need to do. And you know, it's a big life change, but I already feel so much better. Like had we even done this podcast a month ago? A part of me would have been going through the most. you know, it would have just been like, yeah, yeah. Oh my God. Yeah. So to connect with you, but really I'm exhausted. And this is like draining my cup and I no longer feel like that. So it's, very nice to be present. Cara: Good. I think that. That's what life is about. And Sara: Yeah. Cara: trying to find the way that you can be present, because I feel like my whole [00:09:00] life I was going through the motions, I would plan something. And while I was doing that thing planned, I was like planning the next thing, you know, Sara: Right. Cara: actually ever present and what I was doing. And so that's been, know, , a huge part of learning my body learning when certain things are better to do, , the planning and the doing and the showing up and that. And so in this podcast, my goal is to help women be in their body. Like that's, that's my main goal is like, how can you be in your body? Whether your things that can help you do it. And so everybody's different. So Sara: Yes. Cara: bring ways to help, you know, inspire that in women. Sara: Yes. I love all that. I all that aligns with me. You've never seemed happier and I love to see that in you. I feel like something that you kind of touched on it and something that has meant a lot to me lately is that this path is different for everyone self-acceptance being present, being in your body is so different for everyone. So sometimes we get to this place where it's like, I've found the key to life, but it's my key [00:10:00] to life. So like getting in touch with yourself first, forgiving yourself, letting go of all the regrets, letting go of the expectations so that you can get to a place where you're present. think that's so important and that everybody's journey is completely unique and not comparing yourself to others. I even do it now. My dad is so organized and he's so. Well, I don't even know if organized is the right word. He's very disciplined am not. If I turn this camera around, you would be like, oh my God, who robbed your house? Why is it such a mess? But it's just who I am. And I'm coming into accepting that I don't have to be like my dad to like my dad to be in love with my dad too, for us to have a great relationship. And he's such a good guy. So like, but I've been trying since I was a kid to like emulate some of those things, same with my mom, you know, like everybody in my family has these different skills the moment that I stopped trying to be them. Oh my gosh. It's so nice. Just to accept myself. I'm messy. I'm always going to be messy. You should see my car. It's embarrassing, [00:11:00] whatever it's who I am. Cara: I know, I think about when we used to have to make the Bobby awards and how like you did really well when it was just like bomb exploded. And Sara: Yeah. Cara: I I can't, I can't work like Sara: Oh yeah. Cara: it is, we're all designed totally different. , I think once we dive into human design later, you will want to know your parents and your Sara: Yes. I'm so I like, I love more pieces of the puzzle. I think that's why I love astrology so much in just every kind of class that I can take about human development and relationship building and things like that. Because all I want to do in this world is accept myself and help people have a safe space to accept themselves. Cara: . So speaking of astrology, you know, human design actually uses astrology at a part of it. And I'll get into that in a little bit, but I wanted to know just if anything, what astrology has done for you and what pieces have helped you along the way. Sara: My grandma's apple was really into astrology. She had all these books and I would read them when I was little. So I was always just very aware. And when I was little, I would [00:12:00] read things about being a Scorpio and it would be like, yeah, vengeful, you're going to set people's house on fire you so jealous, you know? And I was like, good, long word. I think I'm so nice. But the older I get, the more I realize jealousy really does manifest for me. I want to be the only person in your life. I don't want you to have other friends that I know about you have them. Sure. But it's just me and now that I can just be real with myself and acknowledge that that's part of it. It doesn't feel like this deep, dark secret that I'm at home. Like, I can't believe my friend as a friend, you know, or I can't believe my mom and my sister are hanging out without me. This is bullshit. You know, now I can just be like, okay, sometimes I get jealous that my sister and my best friend look more like than me and my sister do and that they have more in common, but we can still all be friends. So it's helped me like really embrace. Parts of myself and it just helps me understand myself better. I think a lot of people are like, I don't want to be put in a box and I feel that way too. But there are just things. When I read about myself being like a Scorpio, sun a Capricorn moon and Virgo [00:13:00] rising where I'm like, I feel seen, I feel validated. I've always felt a little weird and out there and unique. So to have these things that are validating like, no, this is, this is who you are. The world took a snapshot when you were born. And some of these things just were always naturally going to occur. I love astrology. Marker Cara: Yeah, I totally do too. I think once I understood my Gemini moon for what it is Sara: Yay. Cara: I can't change it. Sara: I hate, Cara: I am a Gemini moon. It's just, it's who I am. I apologize for anyone around Sara: never apologize. Cara: like diving more into the human design. There's a whole nother aspect to the emotional center, but you know, the moon is about emotions and Gemini is about, just jumping from to the next and knowing that my emotions are just a rollercoaster, it's like, okay, I understand what it is. I'm going to try and not react with it. And, you know, bit more. So I definitely agree with, [00:14:00] feeling heard, astrology has made me feel heard listening to my body and my cycles made me feel heard. And human design, I think has been one of the most things where I'm like, oh my gosh. Okay. All right. Let's see how this So before we dive into human design, I would like to know what, or if any knowledge you have of human design. Sara: Literally zero. I know nothing. Cara: Okay. Perfect. That's exactly how I wanted it. So human design is meant to help embrace your design. We all have strengths and weaknesses, but using them better to understand, can build an unlock of power. We didn't know existed. This is a very complex breakdown and should be referenced back to over time. When we're looking to overcome an obstacle or help drive us towards a goal, take a look at your chart and see what can help you through different parts of our charts are highlighted at different parts of our life. So something that might not seem relevant today could be a breakthrough down the road. Another part of embracing human design is when we see we are all built differently, we [00:15:00] can allow others to stand in their gifts without feeling that they aren't doing the things through your viewpoint. Use this concept to understand others and bring their gifts to the table. When needed. When we talk about the positive energy from the design, you must be following your design for these traits to come through. Here are signs that you are not following your design. Life feels hard like you're moving upstream. Your not self theme keeps occurring. Reoccurring health issues may keep popping up. You feel drained versus energized when your decision-making strategy may be overlooked. Life can feel hard. So human design is a logical system that brings together the principles of I Ching astrology. Kabbalah Hindu broadening chakra system and quantum physics, your human design chart also called a body graph is calculated using your birth date time and place to reveal your genetic design human design accesses, your body's consciousness as a decision making tool and ultimately how to live your true self. All right, we're going to dive into Sarah's chart. [00:16:00] So, there's generally five different types. And one of them is kind of broken down into two, but today we're going to dive into generator, which Sarah is, and then I'm going to touch a little bit on a manifesting generator. That's what I am. And when I talk to people about human design, so many people are disappointed when we are the majority of the population, they want to be the select few. The reflectors are only 1% population. So they're very rare, you know, but generators and manifesting generators are the people that get shit done. So we get the stuff done and there's a reason for reflectors. And they are meant to do powerful things too. But people that are generators are manifested and generators should not be disappointed because we do all this stuff and we make things happen. So as a generator, your goal, and to live in your purpose, you need to listen to your gut when you are not living your design. You're not selfie. become frustrated when you feel [00:17:00] frustrated. That is when you need to take a moment, take a breath and take a step back and say, is this in alignment with my purpose? Does this feel good to me? Do I want to keep moving forward and just take a moment with that? Some famous generators are Madonna, Oprah, bill Clinton and Beethoven. You are a workhorse with endless life force energy, but you find it hard to make things happen. needs to be some effort before you can reach your potential. design is to not initiate, but to wait for the right things to come to you. to live in your design, you must one wait to respond to those. Things that are presented to you and then three get going. You go to it. So as a manifesting generator, knowing when I would force myself into situations and they just didn't feel right, and people never accepted it. Like I am just not designed that way. And generators are a little bit of the same, but there's some difference to it. You're like an energizing buddy who keeps going and going well, everyone is falling behind. Your [00:18:00] biggest challenge is to know when and how to apply this energy. And remember to be this Energizer bunny, you must be living in your design. So if you can think if there was a time where you're like I could do all the things, you know, maybe you were connected to a little bit to your intuition, , your sacral a little more, because that's ultimately going to be your decision-making is within your sacral. You are here to transform ideas into something tangible and enjoy the process. When you rush through life or having the pressure to get it done ASAP will be very unhealthy for you. Energetically waiting for the right projects, opportunities and people while honoring your guts response is the key to following your design learning, not to chase and not giving the chance of waiting can lead to disappointment. Your design is meant to magnetically attract the opportunities while being patient will bring the most fulfillment. So how do you feel about this?I feel like it's very interesting information. I feel like I resonate with like Energizer bunny and [00:19:00] what I feel like my former life is. And now just to get myself healthy, I've really downshifted so I can understand what they're saying for the future. And I definitely know impatience is not great for me. waiting can be hard, but I do feel like very comfortable in whatever will be. Cara: Yeah, definitely. And I think key to it for you is like you said, get yourself healthy and then having that, intuition, having that gut response come forth. Because I think when you get to a point of burnout I don't know, I'm speaking for you on that one. I don't know if you feel like you've gotten to a point a burnout. I know I had gotten to a point of burnout. Sara: Oh, absolutely. Cara: I've heard that burnout takes three to five years to recover. Sara: I'm in year two. Cara: Yes. Me too. I'm in year two as well. And the most important thing is listening to your body. And then I think as you trust it will then become to a point , it will communicate with you and what you, you should be doing. I think we put so much force on external [00:20:00] validation, external things, and we really know what we should be doing inside. It's just listening to it or learning how to listen to it , is the key to it. Sara: I felt very comfortable for a long time in my life, just over filling my plate in every way. I have simplified life and given up certain things for others. And I really enjoyed this process and I will enjoy it much more as my health continues to improve I, when I burnt myself out so aggressively, I just found that I was for me working too much and not. Having the energy to have a social life, you know? And so again, when the pandemic hit and we were kind of forced to stay home because the salon shut down, I had this reconnection and I liked that feeling so much more. So I had to make a really tough decision to exit out of management and mentoring so that I could have the schedule that I [00:21:00] wanted and their reconnection to people and less tasks, you know? And that felt so good. So I am capable of so much, but when I got burnt out, it felt like I was capable of nothing. And I was so burnt out to an end because I kept signing up for everything. You know, no one was forcing me into anything. I was just like, yup. Yup. Yup. I like feeling involved. I like being at the table. I like feeling like I'm helping make decisions and. People and help out, you know, I love all of that, but I was at a point where I was like, oh my God, it's at the cost of you. You're helping everyone as much as you can. And you have not taken one moment to help yourself. Cara: Yeah, you have to make sure that you take care of yourself before you can help others. Sara: Right? Cara: And it will show in the end. It's like once you get to a point where you feel like have rejuvenated yourself back into that Energizer bunny, because you will get there, but it doesn't need to happen right now. It's not your focus. your focus is, Sara: I'm in no rush. Cara: you know, nourishing [00:22:00] yourself and, you know, Personal experience, you know, I've, I feel like I fast forwarded my burnout recovery because I was able to kind of take myself out of doing hair. I loved doing hair, but I did not know how to set a boundary. I did not know how. And so it took me taking out of that situation to understand what it meant, , yes, you can stop and take a moment to eat something because your body needs it. You know what I mean? It was like these things that I always told myself, no one else was forcing me. Like, you can't go take a break to eat. You can't go take a break to drink water. But I had to learn. I felt like I had to learn how to nourish myself because I didn't know how. Sara: Well, and when you value yourself based on productivity. And I think there, especially when we started doing here, which was about 20 years ago, there was a little bit of a toxicity just inside of the industry. And some of it lingers. Now, I feel like the new generations are much better at self care, but I know when I started, it was like jam at all. [00:23:00] And even in school, they were like jam it all in kitchen, kitchen, gouging, get that UTI, never go to the bathroom. You know, I would go nine hours sometimes without drinking water and like just, it was too much. And I loved the idea of work smarter, not harder, but I would often confuse it the other way and just run myself into the ground again, that competition would come in and I loved running myself into the ground until my body made the decision for me. That that was no longer possible. Even now I hurt my shoulder a couple of months ago and it was this crazy like depression of, I've not really thought about doing anything other than this. And what if this is taken away from me, I have to have my shoulder to foil to blow dry, to cut everything. And it made me just stop in my tracks, take a deep breath. And again, with the No. boundaries, like you said, my chiropractor was like, listen, if you just limit some of the services that you offer limit your hours and the amount of people that you do, your shoulder will start to heal itself. And I think [00:24:00] finding out that I'm diabetic has also helped because it's me bring down the inflammation, placing a boundary for myself for my health. I had starting deal itself and like, just realizing, I dunno, I think when you're in that busy place, it's like I'm too busy to do that. I can't do that. I have to keep tracking through and you're deeply injuring yourself spiritually, emotionally, physically, you know? Cara: Yeah. And I mean, ultimately, what are you left with? If you work yourself into the ground and you're bedridden, or, your health is not there. What is it all worth? And so I know there's people like, I can't live this way or can't do that. And it's just like, you know, I didn't magically change my life. I had to make some hard decisions to be able to be where I'm at today. It's like redefining your version of success because we all have a different version of success. And sometimes your success has to change to nourish your body. what's being successful. If your body is falling behind. Cycle planning AD: [00:25:00] Are you looking to have a more easeful and purposeful life? Well, planning around my cycle has changed my life. And I know with this concept, it can help other women take on the test. At the right times for more productivity. I created a free cycle planning principles to help guide you. Understand your cycle. For your work and home life. Visit Caradempsey.com/cycle. Or check the show notes. Sara: Yeah, well, and I've been able to like fall in love with my career again, you know, like really value this time of my clients, of my coworkers, this time of my bosses. Like I really love where I am and what I'm doing, because physically feel better. able to be present instead of just trying to survive a day or survive the guilt of calling in. Cara: Yeah, that's good. I'm glad you're on that journey to coming back to yourself because Sara: Yeah, me too. Cara: the most important relationship you will ever have in your life. So good for you. Sara: Thanks. [00:26:00] I it's been,process, but absolutely worth it. You Cara: Yeah. Sara: when change, I am a change, but I can acknowledge that change is hard. And you yourself why it won't work. Cara: Yeah. Sara: want to do that anymore. I want to be healthy, even though been living for a while as if that were not a goal of mine, I want to live And I like having energy. I like feeling better. It was funny. Even said Energizer bunny, the first time I was like, God, I do not feel like that, but it's because I energize myself right into the ground. And now I'm recharging those batteries. Cara: Yeah. I think the more I teach you about how you can make decisions, you'll better understand when that energy comes out, because that's the key with human design is if you're not taking those aspects that are important, you're going to be living against your design. If you're powering into that Energizer bunny and you're not actually living within your sacral and [00:27:00] understanding your gut response, You will literally drive yourself. Sara: Then it's chaos. Cara: Yeah. It's chaos. You're you're not going to enjoy it. You're going to be like, why? Sara: Yeah, right. No, I'm excited. Cara: so to follow this energy within, and then you can bring the opportunities to that you desire. So you have to master the art of patience and I, as an Aries, it's, it's my, I always say patients is my life lesson. So like, I get that. It's hard, but I have learned Sara: Yeah, Cara: I'm not a master of it, but by all means, I try to have it a little bit more. So embracing the patients, learning how you can, you will become a law of attraction when you start to master that. So that's. Sara: Great. Cara: If you lose patients and you quit too soon, you will lose the opportunity, become a master of that project. And we'll have to start from scratch. So say you're not sure if something's feeding into your soul, you have to have that [00:28:00] moment. to feel if it feels good, see if it resonates. And then if it doesn't, you can always kind of come back To it. but jumping to conclusions may hurt you in the end, too., one thing that I found is learning how to ask for a sign when there is doubt whether to quit, move forward, it can save you from jumping to the wrong choice. So I usually will ask, the universe, my guides to show me a sign. If this is for my purpose, if this is for, , my design, however it may be. And you know, nine times out of 10, I will get a sign. So it's just learning how to ask for that in a way that feels authentic to you. the hard side of a generator is you have the energy to make things happen, but chasing things to happen before you give them a chance to attract, you will do the opposite. if you jump after something without the sign to say, Hey, this has meant for you. It's like, you will repel them and you'll be like, why is this not happening for me? When those [00:29:00] opportunities, you must refer to response your decision-making and that is your sacred response. So that is a gut sensation. It's a feeling or rising or pushing away energy within. And you have to give a moment and it's pretty much like a hell yes or a hell. No. And if it's a, maybe I probably would hold off making decision. So say a friend asked you like, Hey, do you want to do this podcast with me? And you're like, hell yes. Or you're like, you know it right now doesn't feel like the right thing, which is, I exactly like right now, it doesn't feel like the right thing, but you know know Sara: Yeah, Cara: opportunity came to you and it was there. and then when the time is right, you're like, yes, of course I want to do that. So see you, you're kind of like you were living in your design for that anyway, so Sara: I love my Cara: good. so you need to make sure you give the time and the energy to connect with the sensation., you're learning how to connect with your body. So I think you're in the process of that, but that this was something [00:30:00] that I had always felt like a gut response, and they would say like, feel it in Your gut. , I just didn't know it was a real thing.. And I once I've started, you know, the last two years that I've used my design, like, it has not steered me wrong I find that sometimes things might not work the way I wanted them to, but I'm all about like , what is the lesson in this? So even though it's not like, oh, I'll rainbows and you know, parties, it still taught me something that helps me what I was looking for. If that makes sense. Sara: it totally does. I love that intuition exists in all of us. And . I hate that we don't listen to ourselves and like, believe it, you know, or, I mean, I've had so many amazing, like spiritual experiences in my life. you do have a moment of questioning, like, is this just my imagination? And then they just got to a point where I was like, well, who cares if it's working either way. I don't care. If it's just my imagination, it's still my body and myself generating an answer. Cara: Yeah, it's powerful. And I feel like, Sara: Yeah, Cara: I feel like maybe just our generation and just like, , [00:31:00] no hate to our parents. I think they were taught in a certain way. You're fine. And so we were just kind of like, okay, I'm fine. Push it off. Like I'm not going to listen to my body. , learning how to reconnect with yourself is a , huge step in the right direction. Sara: Yeah. I feel very lucky I, I have the opportunity to talk to so many different women every day and connect and go deep. my parents never pushed us. They never forced anything on us. And I am so grateful for that. You know, like I have friends who, you know, Their parents are ready for like grandkids and or their parents want them to go, younger that want them to go to this college, that college do things the way that they think is right. And we just always had love and support, you know? Like they were just like, yeah, go for it. I mean, I don't think anyone in our generation, we were younger. I can't say anyone, but I therapy. Wasn't a huge thing. When I was a kid. I'm glad to have found it as an adult, but I do feel fortunate to have a family that's just ensconced as you in love Marker Cara: that's great. That it's there. And just, you know, the support is [00:32:00] huge. Sara: so nice. It's and you know, like it feeds off of itself. Like we all just love each other and want to be together and want the other ones to have a great life, you know? Cara: Yeah, that's great. Sara: Yeah. Cara: So another important aspect is to learn how to get out of your head and into your body is going to be one of the best investments. So I think you had mentioned painting, I'm sure that's a huge thing that helps you kind of get out of your head and into your body. And so finding the things that help you for me, meditation was something that I had to teach myself and practice and practice and practice because I did not know how to get out of my head. And once, I realized the power of it changed the way I think, like those thought loops that you like can't stop. And so I still get them, Hey, let's take a vote. You know, kinda sit down and, connect with myself , learning how to get out of your head is going to be a huge part to kind of sit in your body and, just removing yourself from a situation. So you can feel [00:33:00] your sacral. Clearly I have found taking many breaks, being around many people has been a huge part for me. I actually made a energy clearing meditation. I made it because I thought like, what would I have needed when I was a hairstylist, when I would get that heavy energy. And I can't tell you how many times I would come to you. And I was like, Sarah, gosh, Sara: I know it's hard, Cara: with a client just really bogged me down. Like, how do I get back up? You know what I mean? Like, and so I made like a five minute meditation for people that are trying to learn how to kind of clear that energy. Because it can be really heavy. Sara: yeah. Well, when you love people so much, you're strangely. Holding on to their pain, you know, and you don't have to do that to support someone, but it takes so long to learn that that you're just, you don't have to like swallow all that. Cara: I know. again, we'll get into this later, but we both have our emotionalcenter open. I think this was probably the [00:34:00] biggest mind-blowing thing for me in human design, because I was like, that makes so much sense. So , we'll jump into the centers and how that affects. But yeah, that is one common occurrence in both of our designs is our emotional centers are wide Sara: I love that we have so much in common. Cara: I know. Yeah. We both have single definition. Our strategy is the same and not selfie Ms. Frustration, but I am a manifesting generator. So I have like the anger part too. So Sara: Oh, I've got some of that. I'm a Scorpio. I, you know, I think we had like two or three top five strengths too. Cara: Did we? Sara: Yeah, I you have individualization. Cara: don't know Sara: And I think we? had at least one or two more, but I don't remember what your top five was. Cara: When I, when I looked up your wrong chart, there was some parts where I was like, this this doesn't fit at So, Sara: Tell me what was it? Cara: there was one thing where it was just likelike the channel of judgment or something. Sara: I was like this bitch. hard. I feel like, you and I would be hard on ourselves, but like, I don't know if I can turn around and say that you'd be [00:35:00] judgmental Cara: of Sara: right. Cara: other people. I was reading it and I was like, this is not her at all. Sara: Thank you. I really try hard not to be judgy. Cara: this makes sense. Sara: You're like, she's gonna cry, Cara: I'm not even going to put that on there because this does not ring true at all. Sara: But I'm telling you like I'm so agreeable. I would have been like, yeah, that really resonates. Cara: no, I even thought that I was like, I hope she doesn't agree with this. Cause this is not her.so part of having a sacral sponsor is once you commit to something, you feel like you must follow through with it, even though it might not fit with what you actually desire. So I feel like, it sounds like you're getting away from that a little bit, which is good, that you're like stepping into your power, but that is one thing, I was saying before, there's certain parts of your chart that might ring true now, and that might change later. And so that probably, it seems like that fit Sara: Yeah. Cara: you very well. Maybe the last, like three to five years, you felt you had to stick with it. So I'm [00:36:00] glad you were kind of not keeping yourself bogged down by those commitments that don't serve Sara: Oh my God. It was like literally a weight being lifted. I just I'd put all these expectations onto myself and all this responsibility that no one else was asking me to do. I felt so responsible for so much. And it was like, oh my God, girl, put your air mask on. The plane is Cara: Yes, that's it. You've got to take care of yourself. Sara: but my plane. Cara: Yes, you're playing. Sara: it was just my plane that was Cara: It's the stories we tell ourselves, and it's just like rewriting those stories, Sara: Yeah, well, you know, I'm all about like, feeling good about yourself and self esteem. And I had to learn something that sounds derogatory, but I had to learn that I'm not important. not so important that I can't step away to take care of myself. So even though it sounds like, kind of a negative thing to say to yourself, like I'm not important. , I've just recently realized that the world doesn't revolve around me. And I don't think that I'm like [00:37:00] the head, he goes centered of a person that I imagined that it did, but I know responsibility helper setting. It was like, the world will crumble without me. You Cara: Yeah. Sara: I, if I'm not the one there helping and doing and oh my God, what a lie? What a cute little story I wrote for myself. It isn't true at all. Cara: Yes. Sara: happier with my presence when I am not bogging myself down with fake responsibility. Cara: Yes. Oh for sure. I mean, I feel for my own personal thing, like my husband sees my energy now. Like I am just a totally different person and then I can handle more things when I know that. Handle them. And like, I try not to like overdo it and I put boundaries to say like, okay, if we're doing this today, we're not doing this tomorrow. Sara: Yes. When I'm not taking care of myself, I'm riddled with fear and anxiety, literally all the time. Just any new situation. I'm unsure because of my larger body. Am I literally going to fit in? So like any new restaurant my family would want to go to, I'm just like, Ugh. No go somewhere. I know? [00:38:00] And since I've been feeling better, I'm trying to just be open to any possibility and, you know, so the things that feel right and just feeling so joyful. I, my sister and I have been spending so much more time together and chatting and she's so good about like, when I am not feeling great, she will give me space, but then I forget that I need to reach back out to like reconnect and we've just reconnected so hard lately. And it's been so fun being together. And I just feel so much joy in my heart when like we're all together. Instead of the fear of like heading to the restaurant, not being present, not knowing where I'm going to sit, what I'm going to have, what it's going to be like, is it going to be tight or anything? Literally anything like, what is it going to be like, just acknowledging that it has shown up, not taking it in like, all right, I see you here. That's okay. Cara: I think just even being aware of the energy that you're like admitting in those situations, you know, like that's that in itself? Sara: my God. Well, I feel like we really relate on this. My energy changes the dynamic of my family. Cara: Yes. Sara: I am in a [00:39:00] mood or a way, it's not as fun. I don't feel like I need to like entertain my family or anything, but we have a really good fun time when we're all in like a good place. And that's not to say that we expect each other to be good all the time, if I'm in that weird place, nobody knows what to do. It's like I'm holding them hostage because so often not myself. I hate that feeling. Cara: Yeah, there's actually a part in your design that literally explains that. Oh my God, let's talk about it. So your energy does come from commitment because of the energetic momentum, what fuels your energy. So again, like make sure you connect with your sacral before that decision and then it will propel you forward in that, Sara: Oh, I love that, Cara: as a generator, you can see someone heading right. For poor choices. And like, I know I have that like where I'm like, no, But unfortunately waste your time trying to stop them because they will not, accept it until they're ready to hear it. That's the problem with being a generator is [00:40:00] they don't say Sarah, can you help me through this? Then they're not willing to hear it. So if you try talk to someone about whatever it is that you're trying to stop them, , it will deplete your energy. So just know that save your energy. come to you all power, go for it. But if they don't, you'll just have to let them burn in the flames. Sara: I my business. so when you are in the energy as a generator with the right strategy, You will accomplish a lot and that other designs can't keep up with that energy. So know that when you get an Energizer bunnies state, you're going to expect people to keep up with you and they can't. And not a lot of people have that. Cara: You know what I mean? The energy center that you have. So, to feel the most fulfilled, you muscly engage with the activities, projects, careers that resonate with you and your sacral response. again, if you're forcing yourself to do things that you don't want to do, you will end up being depleted, lazy and not wanting to bring out your true magnetic self. Cara: You'll be overwhelmed because there will be too [00:41:00] much thrown at you and you'll feel Sara: Yes, Cara: And I think that was probably like, you know, March 20, was, you were just like, It was a lot. Sara: paralyzes a great word. I, just felt like, oh no, what am I doing? Wait a minute. I said, all these things and I was going to do all these things and I'm very thankful that I could hear myself and simplify that. Cara: Yes. Sara: just keeping my head down and going forward. I loved what I was doing while I was doing it. I loved it. I can't explain to you how much it filled my cup. And then I just, all of a sudden, one day when I had this time to breathe, realize that like I loved that path and now it's over and I love it and I wouldn't change a thing, but now this is, what I want. Cara: I think sometimes, like, we feel like this is it for the rest of my life. And like, that's not how life is like your path changes. So many people are like, what's my soul's purpose. And it's like, you do know like your soul's purpose could be one thing right now. And it could be something else in months, you know, it changes. So being open to that, I think another thing [00:42:00] of when everything got shut down was I honestly had my life planned to the minute, not my whole life, But since being a hairdresser. And that was the first time where it was like, shit. Shit. I can breathe. I can do what I want. Like let me see. And I think for both of us, it was like, we finally let our bodies of catch up and, you know, calm our minds down. So that experience of listening and hearing our inner voice came so loud. You know, there was so much that happened to other people. And so I felt bad being Sara: Yes, Cara: this is such a powerful moment Sara: Me too. But it was like, I also cannot deny the truth of it was so awakening to slow down and allow myself to change Cara: yeah. And we don't have to like shove our schedule's full of so much stuff that we feel depleted and, Dragging by the end of the day. Sara: Well, my pendulum swing so wide, I can sometimes have very black and white thinking. So I went from cramming every moment of every day. So full that I never had time to [00:43:00] think about self care, to feeling really miserable on the opposite end of the scale. Like my body was so unhappy and like, I was So. depressed and anxious and scared of COVID and all those things that I was doing, nothing that my home had become this ensconced tomb that I went into to feel safe. And I stayed there too long because I sometimes struggled to find the middle ground and I was like, okay. So I was unhappy. And then I swung done happy, but just on the other side, and that was eye opening to have, like, I'm having to learn how to step into something. Instead of like, as Terry told me once Cannonball into the middle of the ocean from a helicopter. Like I can walk through the sand. I can walk into the ocean slowly. I can feel the waves lapping. I can be present and enjoy the experience of getting there. Cara: That's exactly how you should handle your. Response is instead of cannibalization, stick your toe in, see what your sacral saying. And if it's like, yes, let's do it. You know? So that is how it [00:44:00] is. If you're like, this sounds good. I don't know if I want to commit, let me stick my toe in. Let me see how it feels and see what that sacral saying. And you know what I mean? The problem , is when you can't involve in the middle, like you're deep, you know, you have to swim really far to get back to shore. Whereas if you step the toe in, you have a moment to say, Ooh, no, okay, no, this is not, this is not fulfilling my highest good. I'm gonna, I'm gonna take a step out. Sara: And that idea of middle ground just shows up for me all the time. Like my spirit animals, a whale, because they go so deep and that's all I want to do. I want to live in the depths, but then they come up for air that's a really good like lesson and visual for me. Like I can stay down in the deep and we can get so dark and talk about childhood trauma and like all the healing. And I love that space because it's a space of growth, but it can be very heavy. So like you were talking about when you have that heavy conversation with a client, I have to come up to the surface. Cara: Yeah, yeah, Sara: there there's a world of joy in there and like being around air signs is always really helpful for me because they helped me come up to the [00:45:00] surface. Cara: Take a breath. Sara: Yeah. Cara: Yeah. And just taking a moment to say, okay, I had this conversation, it was heavy. It was everything I wanted, let's not. Bring this energy to my next client, and I think about how many times I would bring like my energy from my personal experience or the last client, and just Sara: Yeah, Cara: you know, stack it onto the next. And it's just like, Sara: yeah. By the last client you're like, by the last line and you're like, are you horribly depressed? Cara: Yeah. Sara: it. Let's go to the darkest place that we have. And also you want to go a little lighter, a little Marker Cara: Yes. So another important aspect of your design is to let go of what other people expect of. You will also help bring forth what resonates you. So just to make sure that you set time each day to see what that may be, whether it's just a couple of minutes before you get going in your day or to reflect on it, when you get home, like how did my day go? How did it make me feel? What is something that lit me up? What is something that brought me down? [00:46:00] How can I kind of change that going through. Sara: Okay. I love that idea. Cara: And then yeah. You know, it's just like, I think sometimes we think like self care is an hour, two hours a whole day. And it's just like, no, it could be just a couple minutes, you know, like just taking a couple of minutes to say like, Sarah, how you doing? How you feeling? Sara: love it. Cara: what energy did it bring in? All right. So here's the part that we were talking about earlier. So people who want to build a true and powerful relationship with you should be aware to ask you what, if you want to do versus telling you what is planned. Sara: my God. Absolutely. Don't tell me what to do. Cara: Yeah. Like considered as a consultation, what the energy might be like. So if anybody's trying to plan something, like have a consultation to say, like, what do we want to bring in. If you are forced into an activity that may deplete you, no one will have fun. That energy will [00:47:00] seep to everyone around you. Sara: A hundred percent. I will ruin it and not on purpose. Cara: Sarah's friends and family have a consultation before making plans. Sara: I have gotten really good about being like I think I just said this one out. Cara: Yes, that's good. I mean, that's huge because I feel like, my personal experience, like I just always tried to please everyone, so. Sure. Okay. Sara: Right. And you think you're helping, but everyone's like this as miserable. I remember one time we went to , the aquarium, and we were all so pumped me, mom, dad, Kelly, chase, and why it did not want to go. And we didn't want to drive all the way back to drop him off. And he was kind of too young. So like he just ended up having to come and halfway through. Like everybody else is having the best time. And I look at why and he goes, I'm literally in hell. And I was like, oh my God, this is hilarious. And so relatable, you know? And then You're almost powerless to stop yourself from ruining everyone else's time because you're like this fucking socks that's back in socks, you know? And it's[00:48:00] you should've just said now, Cara: Like no one wants someone pounding in the corner. Like no one wants that. Sara: no. Exactly. But there's this idea that. like, oh, it'll be so much fun if we're all together. And it's like, well, it might be, Cara: Yes. You know, you don't really know. So yeah, that's a powerful thing to know, to just say, like, I'm not going to do that. Like my family is talking about going somewhere on mother's day and they're like, they don't take reservations and I'm like, that is my living nightmare. I do not want that. Sara: the consultation with me family. Cara: Like I know I'm not the only mother in this group, but that is literally the exact opposite of how I want to spend mother's day. Sara: just look at your family and say, I'm in hell Cara: Yes, that's it. Sara: Wyatt. Cara: So the last little bit on a generator is they don't have a problem focusing on the one thing and they find that they are disinterested in anything else. They only go for multiple projects when they feel bored and can't explain why they may jump from one [00:49:00] thing to the next. Sara: Yes. Cara: do better when they can focus on their energy on one passion or project, because in the end. It can slow them down versus like having too much going on and then you tend to work. Yes. Like you tend to work better on projects. Sequentially versus simultaneously. And that is one of the things that's different between a manifesting generator and a generator. I literally have 18 million things going on and there's like, no Sequential to it. It's just kind of like, oh, this, that, this, that. So it would make most people's heads spin. Sara: literally do nothing if I don't do it in the order in which I think it should be done. I just have a giant mess, which is like currently where I am right now. Cara: Yeah. I mean, you have that. I think that's why I do really good with courses because I can jump around, but like I can go back and say, oh, okay. Like I miss that. Let me go back and see. Sara: right. Cara: So now we're going to jump into your energy centers. So if you look at the top triangle that is considered the crown, and that is the receptor for [00:50:00] inspiration. And so when your crown is open or uncolored or white, you're open to all sorts of inspiration. At random times. You love to immerse yourself in inspiring atmospheres and you love connecting to artistic people. Be aware. It can, yes. Be aware. It can leave your head spinning since you were easily influenced by other people's thoughts and inspirations. Sara: Yes. Cara: So, one thing about when there's an open center or ones that are white is you tend to have, especially because your crown has no channels That means you are very easily influenced. So those lines that are connecting since those are open, you are very easily influenced to other people's inspirations. You're like, Ooh, that sounds good. I want to do what she's doing. you have that a lot , be aware to not live in someone else's shadow since you can be easily swayed and take note if someone else's ideas or issues are taking up your mental capacity. So if you're trying to like problem solve someone else's [00:51:00] situation, try and take a moment, get out of your head for a little bit and like clear their energy out because you're very easily open to absorbing that, try and use this openness to keep wise thoughtsand not be bogged down by, other people, because that will use up your mental energy. So try and reserve it for your own mental energy. Sara: I'm getting there. Cara: it's hard. I mean, like I said, the emotional center mind being completely open, was Most life-changing So the next one is the mind. So the next one down with the triangle pointing down, this is one of the three awareness centers. It is always processing and is always like a work in progress. This center can let worries and agitations, fester, and keep your mind on an endless loop. it relates to the pituitary gland and the third eye. So if your mind is undefined, you can be open-minded and absent minded in the same moment, Sara: Yeah. Cara: you can be forgetful at times. So [00:52:00] having a journal or a planner can really help you recall the important details. Sara: Okay. Cara: And stepping away from those with the five minds will help you better process information and give space to listen to your own thoughts. So that's kind of the thing. If you feel like again, other people's things are bogging you down because it's open taking a moment and stepping out of the room to say like, what's mine, what's theirs. And how can I process it? You have a gift for resolving other people's issues or knowing what someone else's thinking. So take time to contemplate when alone, and become engaged when interacting with others, which I know you don't have a problem at all. It's like one of your gifts. Sara: Thank you. the next one we have is the throat. Cara: So the square right where the throat is, and this is the power of manifestation. This is the center where everything can happen. And its qualities come through as actions, speeches, writing through teaching leadership and knowledge. it has a correlation to the thyroid and the parathyroid. every center has a [00:53:00] correlation, in your body. So the crown was the pineal gland. The mind is a pituitary gland and the third eye. And then the throat is the thyroid and parathyroid. So sometimes if you're having like issues with your body, it could be that you're not listening to these energy centers. And it's like, I don't want to say manifesting into a disease or an illness, but it could not be helping it if that makes sense. so the throat undefined is once you're around someone with a defined throat, you're able to articulate more easily. So you might not be able to find the right words by yourself, but finding, someone, I bet you, Jenny has her. throat, but . I don't know her chart. so I feel like that's why when you guys are together, there's like an instant, gift of gap. You know what I mean? when you become someone around a defined throat, you turn into a real chatterbox and can dominate a conversation. So I wonder if there's some clients that like you really go and chat, and then there's other ones that you guys both, you know, , you have an undefined and [00:54:00] that you guys are like talking, but it's not like your normal back and forth. You know what I mean? Sara: It's and far between, but it shirt for sure happens, but there's still a comfort there. Marker Cara: Yes, definitely. You, can change your response to the same question. Depending on who asks it from you. So again, like , one client from the next might ask you the same thing and you can have a totally different answer. keep your message on tasks or could turn on clear and taking a moment for silence and learn the right time to chime in can serve you as well. The next one is the ego self, the identity. So this one was cool. I have a friend who I kind of like shared this with her and she's like, that makes so much sense. So the identity is like, who am I? You know, the center is based on your purpose in life. It has correlation to boundaries and judging otherswent into appropriate. It is associated with deliberate. And if a liver is unhealthy, it can raise someone's level and intolerance for life and an inability to connect with it. So if it's undefined, [00:55:00] your identity is vast indifferent with people, places, and things. So like you may merge into something different with every person Sara: yes, Cara: Rather than trying to figure out the thing you are leaning into what feels good in that most authentic expression right now. So it doesn't take away that you're authentic. If you're kind of being one person here, one person there, as long as you feel authentic in it. so trust and being in the space that feels good around the people who uplift you and pull the best out of you and that you always align with the perfect direction. You're a chameleon in most environments, by reflecting back to what those around you need, allow yourself to be flexible and go with the flow. You may be the one to help guide someone to their self, even though you might not be able to do the same for yourself. So you're kind of like a coach or a guide or a mentor per se. Sara: very authentic. Cara: when you feel last, spend time with someone you trust that has their center to find, be wary of those who disempower you and avoid spending time [00:56:00] with them when you are feeling easily swayed. So how do these feel so far for you? Sara: Pretty accurate. Cara: Okay. So the heart center is the center that balances the willpower.I know we talked about willpower a little bit and yours is open. Mine is open too. you may have a competitive influence. this is one of the three motors centers and helps push along in life. It can push us at a couple of ways. One is the use of willpower in accordance with greater good. And the other is ego-driven, which can be purely for selfish reasons. , all money situations are passed through the center. So if you're having trouble with the center, you might need to work on the ICO. this center is related to the heart digestive tract, stomach and gallbladder. You can experience health problems when your willpower is invested in the wrong pursuits. So when your heart is undefined, you have nothing to prove. You may yearn to be a powerhouse, but your heart may not be into. Willpower may be lacking [00:57:00] and Sara: oh my God. Cara: yeah, , I think that's what most people, but some people like try and push through, but willpower may be inconsistent. You may find yourself trying to keep up and compete with others. Comparison to others will only leave you feeling depleted in the end, you have to battle the ego and that may leave yourself feeling down. So making sure you come back to see what you desire and not let the competitive ness breakthrough, Sara: Okay. Cara: you have the wisdom to guide other peoples in their path. So I found with when their centers are open, you help guide people in those areas. Like you might not feel completely a hundred percent in it in yourself, but like you help guide people to say. Oh, yeah, you should do that. And I think that's exactly what you do when clients sit in your chair. Sara: That feels very true. Cara: So the sacral, so this is where you make your decisions, the sacral is a raw life force energy. This is the powerhouse where expansion and growth are made. This is known as the [00:58:00] sex center it houses the testes and the ovaries. 70% of the population had the center defined, but few know how to use this energy into their fulfillment. Having the center defined brings out the commitments in any opportunity that grabs your attention, which can mean that you're an unable to turn this energy off until completed. Cara: ., having complete assurance before making a commitment is especially important. So you aren't left, burned out. That's where that like, stick your toe in, see if it feels good. Sara: Yes. Cara: you should feel a hell yes or hell no. And if it's a, maybe hold off before deciding make sure you weren't goingon emotional reaction, but uh, follow your gut reaction, feel it in your body and you know, not in your emotions. Sara: That's good advice. Cara: Yeah. If you like feel emotional from it, then you might need to like, take a moment, and kind of gauge. And your body a little bit. when you feel unappreciated and pushing through tasks that drain your energy, you will also feel depleted. If you feel anger, bored, or frustrated, [00:59:00] then you aren't listening to your sacred role. When you use this life force energy, people will have a hard time keeping up with you. It's also having discernment on where you use your energy. Remember to rest because if not, you will be left in the wind and completely depleted. So how does that feel with your sacred? Sara: Dead on, especially the rest and not making decisions and emotion Cara: Yes. Yes. Sara: listening for the hell yes. In the hell. No, Cara: Yeah. It's takes awhile. It's like reteaching yourself. How to do that? Sara: but when it does show up, it's so strong. So it's like, well, that's obviously the answer. Cara: Yeah. All right. We're going to go to emotional. This is the one that we both have clear and it was the most mind blowing for me. Being in a room with someone that has there's field, like you absorb other people's energy. so the emotional center is one of the three awareness centers and one of the three motor centers, meaning there is a drive to act and accomplish while balancing awareness, the center affects our pancreas, kidneys, stomach, lungs, [01:00:00] and nervous system. This is why we may use food to comfort us by bingeing or lose our appetite. When we're unable to process the emotions, the center is also linked to addictions and it is all about emotional awareness. So learning to understand what are my emotions and someone else's emotions have been a huge learning point. So you may feel like your emotional person. But you were actually riding the wave of other people's emotions when you were alone, your state can be calm and unbothered. If you're following your design and you may have a hard time processing emotions, because it may not feel like a comfortable experience for you. You feel all the feelings and energizing situations, and it's a welcome feeling. But when you were in a energetic, depleting situation, it will completely bring you down and your design is not made to cope. So like you absorb that. And if you don't understand what yours and someone else's and learn how to rid those emotions, [01:01:00] things, addictions, those things can kind of like. Jump on there. Sara: Yeah, Cara: So if you attach to someone else's energy, you will magnify it. So like, if you're in a fight with someone and they're angry, you will reflect back their Anger, like tenfold. So Sara: sure. I, will. Cara: I, yeah, like I have to like step out of the room and take a breath and then come back in. So just make sure you find ways to clear protect your energy, is highly suggested have that meditation, if you ever need it, Sara: I'd love it. Cara: All right. We have the spleen. This is another one of the, awareness centers. It is equipped with the feel-good factor and the survival mechanism. Yours is colored in to the left. this center. Intuitive and highly sensory sensory responding based on instinct. you find that a fear-based story is triggering you, it is stored in the center. When you scan a room or a conversation, the center will usually tell you if it rings true or not. The center relates to your immune system, which can [01:02:00] attract potential illness. If you don't learn how to manage it. so having a defined spleen is you're deeply intuitive and you know how to drop out of your mind and into your intuition. Your intuition is here to be trusted and not, to be made sense of you have a good balance between the helpful healer and the wary bodyguard. You can easily ask If it's healthy or not for yourself and often no. Why you make others feel good and secure and safe in your presence. You pay attention to your fears when they come up and you do not allow them to drive your decision-making senses to help other decipher the moment. It may not mean danger, it may mean that you're not in alignment of what you need. So if you miss sense, walking in a room like, oh, I don't like this. It doesn't mean like something's not going to happen. It just might drain your energy. Ultimately, , you may have good reflexes. It could mean that your fear instinct is always on. So you always have a more fear-based narrative. Being aware could may help you try not to attach to the [01:03:00] overprotectiveness and try and get out of that. Fear-based narrative. Sara: Okay. Cara: spleen may mean that you have a strong immune system. you're following it. And if you are more sick than not, you may be ignoring your intuitive senses. We have one more. So the last one is root. It is the gold one at The bottom. Sara: Okay. Cara: The center houses, our adrenaline and processes, stress. The route is one of two pressure centers and pushes our pressure to act. It applies the pressure to perform in life. The doers, you know, the center is all about productivity and action. It is also about finding balance in stillness, because if we can't, we'll be constantly overwhelmed. So finding the balance is what you need to find in that root energy. It is also linked to the adrenal glands. You have an intense drive to perform an act. The energy from your root can feel like it's a full force at any moment to fully embrace the center. You must find the calm in the storm. Unfortunately, a downside. To the center is that you can't sit still, you're a [01:04:00] master of getting things set, make sure you're not jumping to anything that will set you off balance. And those are all the centers. So, you know, like I said before, like some ring true at certain times in your life. So they might not all resonate with you now, but I'm sure there was definitely some in there where you're like, oh yeah, that makes sense. Sara: oh for sure. It feels like past present future. Cara: Yeah. And it's just like our natal charts, like there's Things that we need to focus on now in the past and the future. Sara: Yeah, very interesting. Cara: yeah. Sara: Now I just want to know more Cara: I know that's a problem with human design. I think that's why I bought every single book that I could have. I'm like, Ooh. So maybe we can do a continued part two. Sara: love, Just want to say thank you. And this was a great chat and I've missed you so much. And I like learning these things and reconnecting and I think we do share that thing of finding the connection in each person, which always just feels so nice Cara: It does. living more authentic. [01:05:00] And I love just seeing how happy you are. oh, thank you. That sounds great. I know when you came into the salon the other day, I was like, oh my God, am I bursting into tears? And I was like, yeah, That emotional center all the emotion. Sara: Uh, I do love feelings. Thank you so much. I really appreciate this. Cara: yes. Tell Terry I said hi and enjoy every moment of it. Sara: I will. I love you Cara: I love you too. I'm so excited to bring on my nest C. Sara: I think you should leave it in my nest gas, Sarah outtake. I also imagine like, in my head, once this intro happened, that it was like Oprah, like Sarah. Cara: She is here. That's so weird. I'm so organized. Sarah. What's going on? Sara: My energy is invading your space. My [01:06:00] disorganization it's creating chaos from your podcast. Cara: That's so weird. Thank you so much for joining me this week. If this was your first time. Welcome. And if you've joined me for previous episodes, thank you so much for coming back before you go, make sure you share my podcast with a friend or subscribe. If you haven't yet. Those few seconds make a huge impact on my podcast and I'd be grateful for the support. This interview was Sara was exactly what I needed in my life. I have a feeling this might not be the last time you'll hear her on my podcast. Check out the show notes. An episode details caradempsey.com/13. Thank you for joining me in today's episode of Floductivity until next time.