NOTE: This podcast was transcribed by an AI tool. Please forgive any typos or errors. Keisha Frazier === [00:00:00] Cara: Hello, and welcome to this episode of floductivity. Today's episode. I get to have the pleasure to speak with Keisha Frazier. I've been following her on Tik TOK for a while, and I just love the readings and guidance she gives. I actually had a reading with her a little while ago and it was truly transforming and powerful. [00:00:20] Cara: I am not going to lie. I cried for the majority of it, and it really brought through some of these blocks I've been having. On my purpose. So I just couldn't wait to reach out to her and have her on this episode. Kesha is a priestess and mystic guiding you. To your inner union, outer union and divine love. [00:00:38] This was a powerful episode and I can't wait to see you on the other side. [00:00:42] Intro --- [00:00:42] Cara: Welcome to floductivity, a place to inspire and empower beings to embrace self-love and self-development for an achievable balance of productivity. I share different ways to come back to your intuition through spirituality, self care, human design, cycle planning, wellness, and [00:01:00] everything in between. [00:01:01] Cara: Thank you so much for joining me this week. If this is your first time. Welcome. And if you've been here with me before. Thank you so much for coming back. I'm so excited to join you in this journey. As we learn together. [00:01:14] Cara: hi Keisha, welcome to the show. [00:01:16] Keisha: Thank you, cara. Thank you for having me. [00:01:18] Enhance Your Self-Care Routine with a Morning Practice for Daily Well-being --- [00:01:18] Cara: I always love to dive in and ask what are your favorite self-care practices that you do daily, weekly, or even monthly? [00:01:25] Keisha: Ooh. Okay. So every single day I cannot, I cannot skip this. I start with pulling some Oracle cards, tarot cards, kind of getting a lay of the land for the day. And then I'll go and I'll do breath work for 20 minutes. I have a playlist that I just hit shuffle and I put an eye mask on and headphones and I just go into my own world and breathe. And then after that I will go into meditation and I'll choose like a guided meditation that just kind of jumps out at me. So every morning I start that practice, that ritual and something [00:02:00] else that I love is just taking salt baths, just a simple. Spiritual bath cleansing, salt bath, and just letting the water take whatever's ready for me to released. [00:02:10] Cara: I love all that. I would love to know more about your breath work. Is it something, do you have a specific technique that you do? [00:02:17] Pause Breath work --- [00:02:17] Keisha: I do, yeah. , the type of breath work that I do, I learned through pause, breath, work, and it's the style which is created by pauses. They call it meditative breath work. And what that means is it's more of a meditative experience where you're meant to lay down, you're meant to immerse yourself in it, and you're meant to do a deeper breath pattern, a continuous deep breath pattern. [00:02:40] Keisha: And with that continuous deep breath pattern, it activates, parts of your brain and your emotional body and helps you clear, stagnant and stuck energy. So for me, breath work is like a daily energy reset, where often I am crying, just like, you know, as soon as I start the breath, tears start flowing and [00:03:00] I feel so cleansed and purified after. [00:03:03] Cara: Yeah, I love that so much. I actually, I'm not sure if you know this, but the session I had with you, I was actually on a breath work retreat [00:03:13] Keisha: Oh, I did not know that. [00:03:15] Cara: Yeah. And so that was the first time I really got into breath work. I have apps that I've used, but I've never actually been in a place where like they're teaching you and we went through all the different steps and one thing that I found is I do better in my daily life when I'm grounded and breath work has been by far. [00:03:36] Cara: The most helpful practice in that. [00:03:38] Embrace Healing by Overcoming Resistance --- [00:03:38] Cara: And I just wanna tell anyone listening, I hear a lot of excuses for people that they don't have time. And even if you were to spend one minute, focusing on your breath is more powerful than not like scrolling or like binging on tv. So for anyone that feels like they can't meditate, breath work, I feel like is a beautiful [00:04:00] practice. [00:04:00] Cara: So I'm, I'm so happy you brought that up. [00:04:02] Keisha: Yeah, and I feel like I get a lot of resistance about it being hard or people being bored. Kind of like, to your point and. To those people. I would just wanna say it's the things that we resist the most, that we often need the most. So it's worth pushing past that resistance. There's a lesson in that resistance. [00:04:21] Cara: Yes, that is so true. I find that with journaling, I have like a love hate relationship with it and so I've brought it back into my daily ritual to make sure that I'm connecting with that. And so I do believe that as well. It's, [00:04:36] Growth and Fulfillment: Embracing the Challenges Aligned with Your Soul's Purpose --- [00:04:36] Cara: I've also had people tell me that the hardest thing for you to do is ultimately like what your soul is here to do. [00:04:42] Cara: Like you have to break through that difficulty. And do you have any take on that at all with a lot of what you do? [00:04:49] Keisha: Yes, I do. yes, that's a very, very good point and exactly what I'm going through at this moment. That's why I'm laughing because I'm like, yes, I see [00:05:00] that being true. And I guess the example that I'll give is my core wound is a, around love and learning how to give and receive love. many people would believe that naturally as children we come into the world knowing how to give and receive love, which I think is true. [00:05:14] Keisha: But if you have experiences in your childhood as I did that taught you that it's not okay or unsafe to give and receive love, then you forget and you find yourself at 34 years old like me, learning how to love and receive and give love, feel, feeling like it's the first time. So it's really hard. [00:05:35] Keisha: it's really challenging, but that's what my soul came here to do, to learn that and to teach that. Yeah. [00:05:42] Cara: Yeah. Why do we give ourselves so many lessons? [00:05:44] The Power of Feminine Energy: Connecting with Your Inner Essence --- [00:05:44] Cara: one of the things that I found for my own is that feminine energy. I feel like I've always had this constant hustle inside of me and learning how to dive into the feminine. And so something about me is that I used my [00:06:00] menstrual cycle to connect me with that femininity because I kept doing, doing, I always thought I should be being productive. [00:06:08] Cara: And so I found this flow in my cycle and trying to teach other women that it's actually like a secret tool that you can use when you don't really know where to go. And so I know you work with your clients in connecting with their feminine, so I would love to hear how you help your clients tap into that. [00:06:27] Keisha: Yeah. I love, first I just wanna say I love the idea of connecting to our menstrual cycle. It's something, a journey that I started last May when I had my I U D removed and decided to go into natural. Birth control and learn my cycle and all of that. And it really, really does help you feel connected to your body and the earth and just the moon, like nature, all of those feminine aspects and energies. [00:06:53] Keisha: But as far as the work that I do, it's much more from my perspective, energetic. We can break ourselves down [00:07:00] into different layers, right? So there's our physical layer, which would be much about, connecting to your menstrual cycle, connecting to your physical body, and what it's doing and how it's doing it. [00:07:09] Keisha: There's the mental layer, which is our mindset and how we think. there's the like the emotional layer which is a lot of what I do, a lot of the work that I do is helping people to. Befriend their emotions, sit with their emotions, alchemize their emotions. And then there's the spiritual layer, which is also what I do. [00:07:25] Keisha: so really helping people with that emotional, spiritual part of themselves and working through trauma, working through the subconscious mind to, access those parts of you that have hidden your feminine energy away, out of fear, out of survival, out of whatever happened to you in your childhood, whatever coping mechanism you developed, helping you bring yourself back to those parts of yourself and realizing that it's safe to be in those parts of yourself. [00:07:52] Cara: Yeah, that's beautiful. And I think there's so many women who you can just see that are work, work, [00:08:00] work, and they don't give themselves that time to rest. And they think self-care is selfish. And it's been one of those things that I've really, really had to work through in myself and. I feel like when we can connect with that feminine, that's like where we receive that intuition. [00:08:19] Cara: And so when I'm really tapped into the being and not the doing, that's when that intuition really comes through. And so I think that's beautiful that you can help connect your clients to find that that parts of themselves that they've hidden away. Because that's ultimately it with our conditioning and our upbringing and all those things. [00:08:39] Cara: Like you know, we're just trying to protect ourselves and reparenting ourselves to be able to be seen, be heard, be loved, all those things that we kind of forgotten how to do. [00:08:52] Keisha: Exactly. [00:08:53] Free Yourself and Embrace the Present: The Impact of Holding onto Fear, Anger, and Pain from Past Experiences --- [00:08:53] Cara: Yeah. So how does holding onto fear, anger, and pain from the past [00:09:00] experiences like hold us back in our lives? [00:09:02] Keisha: So essentially we can hold onto things. So all of those layers that I mentioned, we can hold onto things in our mind, in our body, in our emotional body, and in our spiritual body. And so it's important to be able to face those parts of yourself because they're holding onto whatever that trauma is, because that's how they survive. [00:09:25] Keisha: When we are traumatized and we don't have the tools to deal with that trauma, big T trauma, little T trauma, it doesn't matter. Anything that overwhelmed your nervous system, you didn't have the tools to regulate yourself, you're gonna hold onto that experience so that it doesn't happen again. That's the survival mechanism at work. [00:09:43] Keisha: the only issue with that is that it creates density in your body on all of those layers. And that can lead to chronic illness, that can lead to mental illness, that can lead to, just feeling depressed and emotionally, you know, drained and down all the time. So there's so [00:10:00] many manifestations of holding onto that density that will slow us down, that will make us feel disconnected, that will keep us feeling separate, basically from God's source universe, you know, whoever you believe in, but keep us feeling separate, feeling like it's all on us. [00:10:16] Keisha: We're on our own. You know, who's gonna help me? Who's going to support me? [00:10:20] Cara: Yeah. Yeah. I've recently realized that my over planning when I would just like be stuck in planning mode was kind of a defense mechanism because I was always trying to stop whatever would go wrong. If I planned enough. It wouldn't happen because I, that ultimately, especially when traveling, my nervous system gets very heightened, and so I get overwhelmed in the. [00:10:47] Cara: You know, all the things around me and making sure that I'm okay. And so, realizing that one, I'm safe and that doesn't matter how much you plan things can go wrong. And It stopped me from [00:11:00] enjoying the journey to places and like it was one of those big pivotal life moments for myself that I was always trying to get to my goal. [00:11:08] Cara: I was hustling to get there and I didn't know how to enjoy the process. even though my spiritual awakening was a few years ago, it's been in the last few months that I realized I was still in those same patterns. I was trying to live a different life, but I was still stuck in those same patterns of doing the things how I used to, and then realizing like, oh, okay. [00:11:29] Cara: having my husband who is a tourist and very grounded, like he would just be like, It's not just about getting to vacation, it's the whole thing. So you gotta like be here with us and yeah, it's been kind of like a mind blowing experience to realize that I just was planning my way out of actually having the experience and then I looked at my human design and one of my channels is the, pretty much like the gate of now being in [00:12:00] the now. [00:12:00] Cara: I also feel like energetically, when you look at a human design, like if someone has a pain point, if they can look at maybe a gate that's looking at that, that's when my manifestations come forth. My good manifestations, the things I'm working towards is being in the now. I mean, I think everybody can benefit from being in the now, [00:12:19] Keisha: Absolutely, and and when you return to the now, doesn't it feel so much better when you actually can let go and surrender? It feels amazing. It's just often so hard to do in the moment because we have those attachments, but it is worth it. [00:12:37] Cara: it is. And I think a lot of it is I would get up in my mind and again, you know, looking at human design we're really not supposed to make decisions from our mind. [00:12:47] Reconnecting with our Bodies: Essential Practices for Being Present --- [00:12:47] Cara: We're supposed to be in our bodies, in our energy centers. And so I find that like, I get stuck up here, like planning and thinking, and then it's just like, oh, okay, what are the practices? [00:12:58] Cara: Breath, work, salt, [00:13:00] bath, all those things that really bring us home to our bodies that can, we can really be present. And then the now it's just remembering that we need to get there and how we can support ourselves in that. [00:13:11] Keisha: Yeah. And I feel called to say for some reason, like, if you're an extra sensitive person or soul, it's okay if you need more time doing those things. Because you know, for myself and for people I've worked with, they're like, well, if I spend all of my time regulating, then I'm gonna be doing this. All day almost, and every day. [00:13:33] Keisha: And I'm like, yeah, that's, I mean, this world, it's not designed for us to be in the now. So we have to take our power back and shift ourselves out of what the world is trying to keep us trapped in. [00:13:47] Cara: I found through these interviews, you know, most of these healing practitioners, they have to have that in place. That is how they connect to their intuition. That is how they have a direct [00:14:00] connection with source, universe, God, whatever it is. Like they need those practices because if not, you have no anchor point to where you need to be, and you have to be within yourself. [00:14:11] Cara: And so that was a huge power for myself is that I am extra sensitive and that I need that extra time. it's knowing that yes, sometimes it's so much fun and. Beautiful to go on TikTok and scroll and see these readings, but if I'm really wanting to be the best version of myself, I have to say, okay, what can I do first before I do that? [00:14:35] Cara: And a lot of times once you get into those practices, you're like, oh, I don't need this numbing thing that's not actually having me present in my body. I just needed to come home to myself and process my emotions and journal or whatever that is. So, I'm so happy you said that because it's changed my life that I've a allowed myself, I've given myself permission to say, [00:15:00] I need this time to be the best version of myself. [00:15:03] Keisha: Absolutely. Yeah. [00:15:04] Embracing Surrender: Letting Go of Control and Trusting the Flow --- [00:15:04] Cara: So what are some ways that we can lean into surrendering? From trying to control because that is a big piece of trying to control. That's like the over planner in me. what are some things that you can maybe tell me and listeners of Yeah. How do we surrender? [00:15:23] Keisha: How do we surrender? So first I wanna ask you, do you have Virgo placements? [00:15:29] Cara: I don't, [00:15:29] Keisha: Oh, I'm surprised cuz you mentioned the planning and I'm, I have Virgo placements and I'm a planner to the max, but Okay, so. Kind of incorporating astrology. My north node is in Pisces in the eighth house, which means that my soul came here to learn how to surrender. [00:15:46] Keisha: So even though this is one of the hardest things I have to do in this life, to your point earlier, it's also something that I'm gaining mastery in because it's so hard for me and I have to consistently show up [00:16:00] for it every single day and consistently remind myself to let go every single day. So I think that's the first thing you know, if you are someone who has a hard time letting go of control, it's a practice surrender as a practice. [00:16:11] Keisha: It's something you show up for and commit to every single day, multiple times a day, sometimes. So that would be the first thing. after that I, I would encourage people to think about your relationship with a God source, oneness. Totality, right? And understand that we in this human body, We are limited by the human body, right? [00:16:34] Keisha: we are pieces of God. I definitely believe that, and we're connected to God, but we are still human and there's certain things that we just cannot see or do. And so that's why it's important to understand the relationship that you have with the supreme being, because you understand then that it's not all on you. [00:16:52] Keisha: And that even if it was all on you, you wouldn't be able to do it as well as God universe could do it. So it's [00:17:00] realizing that there is a being that has your best interest at heart, that has access and knowledge and a view of everything. Everything you can't even conceive of. And that being wants what's best for you, wants you to thrive. So why not just say, okay, I trust the plan that you have for me. I trust the plan that my soul decided before I got here that I can't remember right now. I trust the flow of life. That was a big turning point for me. number three would be this idea that eving that we desire, this is, you know, we hear it all the time. [00:17:35] Keisha: It's already within us. I think adding onto that, what helps me really understand that more was again, adding in the God universe piece, is that it's already in us because it's supplied to us through God, universe, right? So to me, again, it's, it's taking the reliance of everything off of myself and understanding that I actually don't have to do anything. [00:17:59] Keisha: I [00:18:00] just connect. Trust that connection, let it pour through me. Then I will be moved into the spaces that I need to be in or, or whatever actions I might need to take from that point. [00:18:10] Cara: Okay, can you call me every morning and remind me this? [00:18:14] Keisha: Yeah, I gotta record it and play it for myself honestly. [00:18:17] Cara: Yeah. I need that because, you know, I think that plays into something that I'm really deeply going through now is I started having these visions in the beginning of my spiritual awakening and they come and they go and they come and they go and, so I've been slowly working towards this project that. [00:18:35] Cara: Is in my mind, huge. I know, I know it's meant for me. I feel it, I see it. What do I do? And that's where I'm at right now is it still feels, I pull cards on it, I ask questions and it's all signs are pointing me towards these visions. it's not up to me to figure out the, how, what is this miracle that needs to come in for this to happen? [00:18:56] Cara: I don't know these answers, but the inner control freak in me [00:19:00] just wants to know like, am I looking for a person? Am I looking for an experience? I'm not sure. But more recently is like, I know that there's pieces to the puzzle. And so when I feel that there's a piece, I'm going to take it, I'm going to lock it in, I'm gonna put it on this vision and I'm gonna keep going towards it. [00:19:17] Cara: And that when it's time for the universe to show me the next piece, it's up to me to be. And surrender. I need to kind of let go of that. And so I just had to share that. I, some days I'm like, I got it. And other days I'm like, what do I need to have a reading with someone? What do I need to do for the next piece? [00:19:37] Cara: And that's, that's kind of where I'm at, is one of the cards I keep pulling is a SHA shaman. And I'm like, okay, so that's ancient wisdom. Is that something within me I need to find or is that where I need to externally find and someone help me through it? I don't know. Do you have any advice for me [00:19:55] Keisha: Yes, [00:19:56] Cara: come up? [00:19:57] Keisha: as you said that, I'm like, oh. So, [00:20:00] first, as someone who relates to this a lot, and I can't say your journey will be just like mine, but knowing the way that, you know, spirit Universe works, you will be going through that cycle until you fully let go of the control freak. So you're gonna be, oh, I'm good. [00:20:15] Keisha: I'm surrendered. Oh my God, what am I gonna do Over and over again until it's finally like, all right, I give up. I'm surrendering. So that's the first thing is just enjoy the cycle. And then number two, the Shaman card, you said, is this something, something I need to find, or is this something within me? It's definitely something within you. [00:20:32] Keisha: So when I think of Shaman Energy, I think of. Someone who is skilled at traversing the other realms, right? The unseen. So I feel like that Shaman card is telling you that there's something that you're, that the reason you feel like, what? What should I do Searching is cuz there is something you're meant to find, but you're searching in the wrong place of yourself and you're meant to search within. [00:20:55] Cara: Okay. Yeah, I mean, that makes sense. I've been pulling cards for [00:21:00] years, but for some reason I just like, I'm like, what messages do you have for me today? And I got really specific in the questions this week and it's been mind blowing. It's just like, oh, I just needed to ask the right questions. But it's also, I've been dreaming more that this, these visions and my dreams are kind of coinciding. [00:21:18] Cara: And so surrendering. I just need to put like a big poster up, like surrender and, hope that kind of allows me to break that cycle. Cuz I tell people like, you're gonna keep dealing with it until you decide to get off. So I'm hoping today is the day where I'm like, I got it. [00:21:34] Cara: I'm out. [00:21:35] Keisha: it could be today. It could be today. And something I wanna add to that also is that, you know, when you are in that surrender mode, you, end up in the flow. You find the flow, and know, you start to experience spiritual breadcrumbs where you really can just sit back and enjoy your life. And then like, I don't know, you read this magazine article and you're like, oh, and it sparks something. [00:21:56] Keisha: And then you see a TikTok and it sparks something, and then you talk to someone and you're like, oh my [00:22:00] goodness. And you just let the events of your life just happen and realize that your spirit team is always speaking to you if you're ready and willing to see it. So they're guiding you like every step of the way. [00:22:11] Cara: Yeah, I think right now I put too much weight into TikTok because I, it's sometimes it's crazy how many signs and whatnot come through. Like there was one where, you know, I feel this connection to my dad and he's passed away and I feel like. If these dreams, these visions I'm having, like I know he's behind it. [00:22:35] Cara: Like I feel it and I'm going through this moment. And there was one where I was like, okay, TAC got really weird for me last week. It, the algorithm, it did not know who I was. Like we, we got like a very big disconnect. But then out of nowhere there was this video where a Coca-Cola truck like drove by and he worked at Coca-Cola for the first 15 years of my life. [00:22:54] Cara: And I was like, okay, why am I, why am I searching so much [00:23:00] for these things outside of me when I can really have this power? And it's weird. It was like as soon as I realized I had the power, I had the questions, I had the answers. And that I kind of took a step back. And then I took a little break from TikTok and I came back. [00:23:13] Cara: It like was like, there you are. Okay, now we can get back to the positive readings and the uplifting contents. that felt big and. Yeah. I mean I do, I do believe in that. And when you're in that flow state, like there is no better high, I don't, I don't wanna call it a high, but it is truly such a good feeling and it's like I wanna live in that all the time. [00:23:37] Cara: And it's just, I hate when I get disconnected with that. And so finding those practices to bring me back. [00:23:42] Keisha: Always coming back over and over. Yeah. [00:23:45] Unlocking Inner Transformation Through Energetic Alchemy --- [00:23:45] Cara: it's like that idea of energetic alchemy. And I would love to know your take on that. [00:23:50] Keisha: Yeah, so alchemy is something that I'm very passionate about. I feel like this is a gift that I've had for many lifetimes of [00:24:00] just being able to sit with my emotions, feel them, and, and feel them all the way through. So the process of alchemy, like in the human world is, you know, you turn lead into gold, you turn a, a non desirable substance into something desirable. [00:24:17] Keisha: So it's taking our quote unquote negative emotions or difficult emotions and transmuting them into gold, into power, into confidence, into whatever was dimmed when that painful experience happened. But in order to do that, we have to feel the feeling and. It's very important, this next part all the way through, because this is where I see people get stuck. [00:24:40] Keisha: People will get stuck just processing in, in the mind first of all, right? Which journaling is great. I love journaling. I love mindset work. That's how I got started in all of this. But that's just one layer, right? So people will get stuck in the mind and then people will like get stuck in just the awareness of their, their emotions also. [00:24:58] Keisha: So I think this is where a lot of [00:25:00] therapy stops of just, oh, here's why you feel that way, and here's what happened. But the alchemy occurs when you go into the pain that was stored there, and you let it come up into your body again, and you feel it all. But this time you're feeling it from the perspective of I am releasing this. [00:25:21] Keisha: I am safe now I am reparenting myself as I am feeling these very difficult emotions leaving my body. And that's where the alchemy happens. [00:25:31] Cara: Okay. that's very powerful. Just like going through, you know, in the session I had with you, I, the session I have with everyone, my, pain point is like unworthiness and I always am like, no, my self-worth is so good. But it's just like having to prove something to someone and just being like, I don't have anything to prove. [00:25:49] Cara: I process it. I, like you said, I journal it, but being able to like say, like, okay, it's here. Okay, now I release you. I don't need you anymore. You're not keeping me safe. You're holding me [00:26:00] back. [00:26:00] Keisha: Yeah, so I would even say that that's still the surface, [00:26:04] Keisha: so, Because what you wanna do, and this is, this is what I work with my clients on cuz so many people get stuck here. And so I'm so passionate about it cuz there's this whole underbelly that people are not seeing in the subconscious. So we can tell ourselves we're confident all day long. [00:26:18] Keisha: We can tell ourselves all these things all day long. We can say, oh, okay, I'm ready to release that. Just let that go. But you have to go back to the memory and there may be multiple, there may be layers of memories of feeling unworthy. So you've gotta like sit with those parts of you if you ever get triggered into that or for you, if it's feeling like you need to prove yourself, you need to catch yourself in that moment. [00:26:38] Keisha: Okay, I feel like I need to prove myself. Then close your eyes. Sit with that part of you that needs to prove itself. Start asking it questions. Why do you need to prove yourself? What does that give you? What are you afraid will happen if you don't? And you just take your time, like you're talking to a little kid, trying to understand what's wrong with this little kid, and you keep digging and you keep digging, and eventually you'll get to the [00:27:00] wounded part and there may be tears, emotions flowing. [00:27:02] Keisha: There may be some kind of energetic shift in your body. You'll feel something shift once you see the root of that wound. [00:27:10] Cara: Yeah, that makes sense. I feel like. [00:27:12] Cara: I'm gonna have to think about that. I'm gonna have to come back to this and go through like a, a meditation session with myself around that or something. Yes. I, I feel that cuz you're right, I don't think I've been dealing with it below the surface. It's been like a very surface level thing and that's why it keeps coming up. [00:27:28] Cara: And I know like it's going to keep happening until you actually work through it and it's like, how do I break through this cuz it's been blocking me for years. [00:27:37] Keisha: Yeah, a good resource to get started with, this is Internal Family Systems. there's a book by Richard Schwartz called No Bad Parts that he's a therapist, but he's also very spiritually connected. So I really resonate with him in that respect cause he created this whole process that goes deeper than just talk therapy into your wounded parts. [00:27:57] Cara: I listened to Gabby Bernstein and I know it [00:28:00] was in her book. I've heard, when he was on almost 30, so like I'm very aware of his work, but I think that is something that is like, oh, I've heard of that, but maybe I need to dive into that a little bit more. [00:28:10] Keisha: Yeah. It's game changing. [00:28:12] Cara: Okay. So would you start with the book [00:28:14] Keisha: Uh, yes. you could also go to his YouTube. He has a bunch of lectures that he is done. So you could watch some of those too. Yeah. [00:28:20] Cara: Awesome. I'll make sure all this is in the show notes too. [00:28:23] Unleashing the Power of the Subconscious Mind for Personal Transformation --- [00:28:23] Cara: So I know we talked a little bit about the subconscious minds, but I'd like to know like, how does it come into play when we're trying to be the best version of ourselves? [00:28:33] Keisha: The subconscious mind is so tricky because it's subconscious so, so much. The, the crazy thing about it is that so much of what we do and how we feel and act is,directed by our subconscious mind, like 99% of what we do. But we are often unaware of what's in our subconscious. So we're unaware of how we're being directed. [00:28:58] Keisha: And the thing is, our [00:29:00] subconscious mind is mostly developed from the ages of zero to seven. So we often don't even remember. Starting these subconscious programs in the first place. So we've just lived our whole lives in this subconscious programming that we're not even aware that we have. So what is really interesting about the process of working with your subconscious is you start to release these layers and every time it's like, wow, I didn't know that was there. [00:29:24] Keisha: Wow. I didn't know I felt that way. Wow. I didn't know I had that belief. And for me recently just uncovering a deeply embedded subconscious trauma that I had completely blocked out. I did not know that that happened. So there's so much, it's like a gold mine in your subconscious. but the thing is, the reason it's tricky is that the subconscious, it, it's like this intricate design of protection that was created by you. [00:29:51] Keisha: So the parts that you're trying to get to, there are all these protecting parts. Richard Schwartz calls them protectors that don't want you to [00:30:00] get to them. They were hurt and they don't wanna be hurt again. So you've, you've developed these subconscious mechanisms, defense mechanisms to keep you from accessing those parts. [00:30:09] Keisha: So that's why we'll often feel like, oh, I'm confident, I feel good, I'm fine. It's a, it's a mechanism, it's a protector who's like, well, you don't really, but I don't want you to see that. I don't wanna go back there, so let's just pretend everything's okay. Right. And there's so many ways that your subconscious will protect you that feel like you. [00:30:27] Keisha: It feels like that's the way I've always done things. If this is who I am, but they're not. It's not. So that's, to me, the most mind blowing thing about it is like [00:30:35] Keisha: the truth of who you are is underneath all of that. [00:30:37] Cara: Yeah. I actually had, something that came forth after the session I had with you during one of the breathwork sessions. And I know this came up in our reading about me, like showing my face and being the public eye. And I remembered this happening, so it's not like I forgot about it, but I didn't realize how much it affected me [00:31:00] was I had passed out during a, presentation in front of my class. [00:31:05] Cara: you know, I always say like, we're always doing the best we can with the tools we have. And my parents' reaction to it was not very supportive. And I was like, already, Tr, lightly traumatized. I wasn't extremely traumatized, but I was traumatized about passing out in front of my class and I had to be carried out. [00:31:22] Cara: And then I also remembered that my friend had passed away and I wrote her a poem and they wanted me to read it in front of the thousands of people, and I like, could not do it. And it was that weekend it all came crashing down. It was like I, during that meditation, I was giving a speech on stage and I was, Telling that version of myself that was in middle school that look at you now, look, I'm on stage and I'm, I'm talking up here for you so you can do this. And then when I came home, like my mom had brought up that whole [00:32:00] poem that I wrote and the priest ended up reading it for me. But it was, I didn't realize, like that is why, like how it was all connected of like, I put up this barrier of like, I can't speak on spa stage because I'm gonna pass out. [00:32:13] Cara: And you know, it was sad that I couldn't say this. the I don't know if funny is the word, but I had this realization of, I'm speaking on stage, it's my future version, talking to my past younger version. And it was like, look at you, you could do this. And then there was, Another, conference next to our meditation, and they all started to applause. [00:32:33] Cara: The moment I had this like realization and I had like chills in my body that it was like, you get to decide, you get to change this. You don't have to be scared anymore. Like you can be strong. You can go up on stage and you could talk. And so it was like all these little pieces of these things, like you were saying, like the breadcrumbs of that subconscious that I was protecting myself. [00:32:53] Cara: That's why I never wanted to speak in front of people. It was just that embarrassing moment. And then I was embarrassed [00:33:00] from that. And then I was kind of embarrassed when I got home from it too. So it was just, yeah, it all came together. [00:33:06] Keisha: That is a perfect example, and I'm so happy you had that experience of unraveling that to see that. [00:33:13] Keisha: Yeah. [00:33:14] Cara: Yeah. It's crazy how much we do to protect ourselves with our subconscious and that if we're like open too. Getting out and, you know, learning more about how we can be the better versions of ourself. It's powerful when we, when we do the work. Right? [00:33:28] Keisha: yeah, yeah. I would just say with your subconscious, if you're new to this work, like just don't take anything at face value. Right? If your mind is telling you something, investigate it. Like, is that true? Let's go a little, let's sit with this a little bit longer. Let's see what comes up. Just like you did. [00:33:46] Keisha: Yeah. [00:33:47] Cara: Yeah. It's hard and, and you know, it's learning, it's learning about yourself and giving yourself the love and support you need in that moment. Right. You know, that's ultimately it. Like you have to make yourself feel safe to be [00:34:00] able to come out from that pattern that we've grown up with. Right. [00:34:04] Keisha: Yeah. [00:34:04] Discover Your Purpose and Intuition: Unveiling the Path to Personal Growth --- [00:34:04] Cara: So I know other pieces that you work with your clients is finding their purpose and Assessing their intuition, and so I'd love to know more about how you do that with them. [00:34:14] Keisha: Yeah. So I have a interesting take, I guess, on finding your purpose. I believe that your purpose finds you. So I love to talk about this because I was one of these people who was searching, searching, searching, searching. So just a bit of of my background, I. Have not always been connected to my feminine energy. [00:34:35] Keisha: I was very much like you, very, controlling of my environment, trying to, I was the achiever, I would say was my main archetype. But like, my parents like it when I do well in school, so I'm gonna do really well in school. I went to Stanford, I worked at Facebook. I, reached the pinnacle of what I thought they wanted from me and it's like two years into Facebook, I was like, I hate this. [00:34:56] Keisha: I actually hate this. And I left at [00:35:00] that point and I went to work in fitness cuz at the time I was really passionate about health and fitness and my journey has just kind of been a winding road of, of wellness and learning about myself since then. But, the reason I bring that up is because I went on this, 12 year journey of trying to find my purpose? [00:35:18] Keisha: And I honestly can say that. Although it was good that I was searching and following the next right thing, that's all I could do. So, for the people that wanna have it all figured out, like, well, I just need to know what it is, I guarantee you that's not gonna happen. The reason for that is because if I had known when I left Facebook that this was my purpose, to help women be in their feminine energy and surround, I would've been like, what are you talking about? [00:35:46] Keisha: You know? So you have to be prepared on each stepping stone to receive your purpose. So really you wanna focus on, okay, I maybe I'm not happy with what I'm doing now. What is the next right thing? What feels like the next [00:36:00] thing I could do that feels good in this moment? Don't worry about the future. Just what feels good right now. [00:36:07] Keisha: And then you keep following that. And then if you move and you're like, no, I'm unhappy again, then you go to the next thing and you just keep shifting learning skills cuz everything you feel like you want to do is there to train you and teach you and prepare you for your purpose. And again, the breadcrumbs you just follow, the breadcrumbs. [00:36:25] Keisha: Your higher self is leading you on the perfect journey. And when you get to your purpose, like me, now I'm in it and I look back and I'm like, everything prepared me for what I'm doing now. I take skills from everything that I did and it's all blended together into what I'm doing now. So that's my answer. [00:36:44] Cara: Yeah, no, that's huge. mine was not 12 years, but I left my career of 19 years and was like, I know I'm meant for something else. I'm gonna do it. What is it? Oh wait. I realized it's like that toolbox, like I need all these [00:37:00] tools to be able to do what I'm doing. [00:37:01] Cara: I believe your purpose is to truly be how you are designed and that is understanding your body, like your cycle human design. And I've found, as I read people, especially in the spiritual space, the majority of them are already living in their design and they don't know it because when they have that energetic circuitry lit up, they are lit up, they're following their passions. [00:37:28] Cara: They know how to look and feel in their body and say, yes. course I had to dive into yours you know, I wanna like echo what you're doing is your purpose. And that's ultimately what I like to do with this. And so as a manifester, you are meant to initiate and make things happen. [00:37:44] Cara: You are a force that injects drive and focus into any project and the people around you, you can do it alone, needing no one but your own drive. And I've found that a lot of times manifestors have [00:38:00] a harder childhood because parents are like, what do I do with this child? They don't understand how a manifestor operates. [00:38:09] Cara: looking at it as like, we are all so different and if we can focus on what we're good at or what lights us up, I truly believe the world would be a magical place if we could understand those things that we do and how we operate. with a manifestor, it's when that anger comes up, that's when you're probably not living in your design fully. [00:38:30] Cara: Like there's something that's kind of stopping you from what you wanna do. when that anger builds up, you're maybe not speaking up or someone has tried to direct your action taking, they're trying to detour you on your path. it's really important for you to inform what you're doing before you act. [00:38:50] Cara: not to get someone's approval, they either need a one stay out of your way or two step up to support you. And so just those little pieces, how does that feel? [00:39:00] And I guess I didn't ask you, do you have any basis of human design at all? [00:39:04] Keisha: Yeah. So I'm familiar with the basics of human design. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it all resonates. I mean, when I learned I was a manifester, I was like, oh my God, thank God. Because I thought something was wrong with me. I couldn't stick with anything. I was always changing my mind. I was always jumping around, like if I told you how many jobs I have had before starting my own business, or I would change schools. [00:39:27] Keisha: And you know, there's just so much. Just, I don't like this. Let me try something else. And I'm supposed to be let, that way I'm supposed to follow my passions. I'm not supposed to finish things. And when I heard that, I was like, oh my gosh, I get it now. So that's really important to me. The anger piece I, I'm definitely still working on, cuz I don't consider myself a very angry person, but I probably have suppressed anger. [00:39:50] Keisha: My mother is more of an angry person and so I think that I kind of went the opposite way of like, okay, well let me try not to be angry. but I definitely [00:40:00] get angry. So I think that's something, a level of it that I haven't really been mindful of that I would like to start paying more attention to of, okay, what does this mean about me being out of alignment right now? [00:40:10] Cara: And that's kind of what I do with my clients is when they're feeling disconnected, how can we look at their human design to get them reconnected, to get them in alignment with it? a big piece to human design that I find is I say you can elevate your intuition by your inner authority, and that's how you should make decisions. [00:40:32] Cara: And so it's knowing that you're not meant to make a decision right away. That you must seek that emotional clarity before making the decision. So going through those emotions and letting your body go through it before you ultimately make that decision. That being said, your spleen is defined, so you have that intuition built inside of you, but sometimes it's like, oh, my intuition is saying that this excites me. [00:40:58] Cara: But then when I go through it [00:41:00] and process it, I realize, oh, do I really wanna put my energy into something after you've gone through the emotional wave? And so how does that feel? Cuz I feel like a lot of people are like, oh, oh wait, I'm not supposed to make a decision right in the moment. [00:41:14] Keisha: Yeah, that part is really hard because I get excited and I wanna make a decision, and I'm like, let's go. Like, you know, manifester energy takes over, but I am learning that, I'm learning to slow down and just give it a couple days and let it all just settle, let the dust settle. And it's true. Usually once I've done that, there is clarity of, okay, this is, and it's, and it feels grounded at that point too. [00:41:43] Cara: there's a few things that I like to say of like, here are some affirmations that, you know, I tell Manifestors, you say like, I make time every day to do the things that light me up. It sounds like your morning routine is on point with that. You know, that that gets [00:42:00] you in your body, that gets you set up for the day. [00:42:02] Cara: You are lit up by many different projects, and that allows you to be creative. That is how you should be operating. So letting yourself be that authentic version of yourself, and I feel like so many. Businesses, families, however it is in the sense of really having to be able to step into yourself, like knowing that it's like, oh, this is how I'm built. [00:42:25] Cara: I operate this way. It's like validation of like, oh my gosh, I thought I was trying to fit in other people's boxes, the expectations of other people, because that's what they expected. so then the other, few pieces of your human design is that you are the investigator of experience, you have a need for knowledge while taking the time for introspection. [00:42:47] Cara: Once you've done the research, you know, there's a sense of security and foundation. you have a need for the experience. You saying what you're going through right now in your life, it's like you know that that's a part of what you're [00:43:00] doing. You have to experience it, and you are meant to make the mistakes along the way and hopefully to learn to laugh while you're doing it. [00:43:09] Keisha: Yes, unfortunately, I, I have three Virgo placements that make that the making mistakes part hard cuz Virgo Energy. You know, I just wanna be perfect. I don't wanna make mistakes, but I'm learning that. I'm learning. I have to be the one to experience it. And, and the mess up is where the lesson is that I can share with people. [00:43:28] Cara: Yeah. And then this is something that I've recently come across is that there's, yours is the right angle that is also mine. So part of your incarnation cross is that right angle. And so your. Destiny is a personal destiny, and it is all about yourself and that you don't need to interact with certain people to live out your destiny. [00:43:50] Cara: You are here to discover what it is to be you. sometimes I feel like my personal experience, I don't know if this is yours, like it felt really selfish. Like I,[00:44:00] you know, diving into my cycle and diving into human design, all these things came from my own selfish need to figure out how I operate. [00:44:07] Cara: And then I'm like, oh, now I need to share this with people. I enjoy the interactions and I find them very helpful and insightful, but they are not needed to fulfill my destiny. [00:44:19] Keisha: Mm. Yeah, I definitely resonate with that. It reminds me of, so I have Mars in the ninth house in Aries, and it reminds me of that energy, Aries being very self-focused, me being driven to learn and grow with myself, but also that ninth house of like, wanting to teach that wisdom. I very much have this, like, I don't need the other people to learn this. [00:44:41] Keisha: I could definitely just do it all myself. But again, if it's, if it's aligned and if it's being brought into my life, then I can accept it. [00:44:49] Cara: Yeah. I feel like your purpose is to be who you were meant to be, and I feel like if someone's having a hard time coming to themselves, tools like [00:45:00] this can be helpful, but it's also having that discernment of not all this is gonna resonate today, and that certain things will resonate when the time is right. [00:45:10] Cara: And that lesson, it can help support you. [00:45:12] Keisha: Yeah. [00:45:13] Keisha: I love that. [00:45:14] Cara: Yeah.you're welcome. So one thing I wanted to mention when I had my session with you was that you had mentioned that you saw my picture being printed and two days later I found out that my face was the cover of a compilation book. I wrote a chapter, there was a few of us that wrote a chapter towards this book. [00:45:35] Cara: And so I just found that really cool that like, I don't know what this means. And it's like, well, I don't need to know what it means. And then I was like, how cool is that that you saw this bean printed and it happened? [00:45:47] Keisha: I loved that when you, you commented that. I was like, oh my gosh. Because I don't often get, I mean, I do get some follow ups. People will follow up, but most people don't, and I'm like, oh, I wonder. [00:45:58] Keisha: wonder. what happened? Yeah. [00:45:59] Liberate Your Soul with a Soul Alchemy Session with Keisha --- [00:45:59] Cara: I [00:46:00] would love if you could just do a mini session for us, if that's okay. [00:46:05] Keisha: Sure. Absolutely. So, I'll tap into your energy and just with the intention of this message being for you, but more people will resonate with it as well. So give me a moment here. I'm seeing, a Magic eight Ball, which is a symbol for doubt, and skepticism. And then they're showing me the color of the throat chakra. So truth, authenticity, your voice. I'm hearing your voice. [00:46:28] Keisha: let me get, and then they were showing me a wild horse, which is freedom and liberated energy. I feel like that came up in your reading The Wild Horse. But, okay, so let me clarify this doubt. Playing small. So there's a part of you. And just for everyone listening, I tend to read the subconscious mind. [00:46:45] Keisha: So, it feels like, you know, those parts we were talking about, there's a part of you that is doubting your truth, your voice. what about your voice? I'm hearing, like Ariel singing in The Little Mermaid that it will attract people in cuz it's, you know, she's got the siren [00:47:00] song that she sings and like everyone's mesmerized. [00:47:02] Keisha: So yeah, I feel like there's a part of you that is doubting that your voice will attract. The people who are meant to come to you. And the answer to that is this part of you is craving to be completely free, to be completely liberated, like a wild horse. Another image they show me for liberation is like a little kid singing into a hairbrush. [00:47:21] Keisha: Like, think about you and your most liberated state when you were younger, and maybe meditate and visualize that, that younger liberated version of you. And ask her, you know, what she needs, how, how you can return to her, you know, what changed and, and start to get that roadmap to reclaiming all of her back within yourself. okay, let me see if there's anything else. Yeah, because there's genius that you are definitely living in and uncovering, but there's more. That's what they're showing me. They show me Michael Jackson to represent like people in their full genius. I always say, I feel like everyone has that [00:48:00] level of genius in them for whatever their soul gifts are, but not everybody taps into them. [00:48:05] Keisha: Right. I almost feel like there was a reason that you are playing, there's a rea obviously a reason that you're playing small, but it has to do with someone who may be represented by like the wicked witch of the west. Maybe someone who was jealous of you or didn't want you to shine and it couldn't, it doesn't have to be that, what's the word I'm looking for? [00:48:26] Keisha: Obvious. It could be like just a subtle thing that happened, you know, where they weren't, they were super nice to you, but like there was a subconscious jealousy. It could be that as well. But it feels like there was someone who did not want you to shine, and so you learned to dim from that? [00:48:42] Cara: Yeah, Wow. That feels right on. Thank you so much. That's, [00:48:45] Keisha: Yeah. [00:48:46] Cara: I love when the horse comes through, cuz that is my, my spirit animal. That's my, one of my guides is a horse. I, his name is Charlie, so. [00:48:53] Keisha: Oh, that's awesome. I love that. [00:48:55] Cara: Wow. Wow. Thank you. Thank you. Yeah. For anyone. She does amazing, [00:49:00] sessions on TikTok, so if you ever wanna like, dive in and hop on there and check her out. But I would love to talk about your upcoming group program, unleash Your Venus. [00:49:09] Working with your venus: Unleashing your venus --- [00:49:09] Keisha: Yes, absolutely. So this was a download that came through. Obviously I love astrology. I've been studying it for a couple years now, and something I'm really passionate about is working with the planetary energies. So not just studying and learning the planets and their characteristics and, but actually working with them like you would, like a deity. [00:49:32] Keisha: You know how people do deity work, right? Um, you can do the same thing with the planets and it's the relationship that you can build with the planets in your chart will, will just take your relationship to yourself to the next level. So I wanted to bring a program that did this specifically for minutes. [00:49:48] Keisha: And I have to just share that in the preparation for launching this program. As soon as I decided to launch it, Venus came in and was like, okay, time for your initiation, time for you to, to [00:50:00] clear all of this. s h i t that is in the way from you fully embodying your Venus Energy. If you're gonna teach this, you need to be embodied. [00:50:08] Keisha: So I've been on a rollercoaster for the last couple of weeks, but it's all, it's all for Venus. but anyway, the program is about helping feminine energy beings, I guess I should say, tap into their feminine energy. You know, if you are a being who is. Used to operating in your masculine energy. [00:50:26] Keisha: That's the energy of hustle, of drive, of making things happen, of control, of planning that we've been talking about this whole session, and you're ready for maybe a softer life. You're ready to be able to receive more. You're ready to be able to let go of the reins and relax and lean back and let somebody else handle it. [00:50:45] Keisha: Let something else handle it and realize that things can be infinitely better. When you do that, then this is the program that I created to help feminine energy beings unleash that energy within themselves. [00:50:59] Cara: that sounds beautiful. I [00:51:00] have not used my Venus. My Venus is a Gemini I know ultimately the basics to help people kind of like break through. I'm more of a like, give me your chart. Let me do my research. that's how I do with my human design. [00:51:12] Cara: Like, okay, let me break it I haven't used my Venus that much, so I'm gonna have to, I'm gonna have to ponder that one. Do you have any suggestions for mine being in Gemini? [00:51:20] Keisha: Well, so for Venus and Gemini, you know, There's a lot to the birth chart. There's the sign that it's in, then there's the house. Then there's the aspects. To me, the aspects are the most important part, but. The sign is important as well. But Venus and Gemini, Gemini energy is very curious, very often, very chatty. [00:51:39] Keisha: Likes to have their hands in a lot of different pots, like just wants to be very multifaceted. Gemini Energy can often wanna be in community so that they can share their ideas, learn from other people. And so Venus and Gemini, you bring out your Venus energy, which is, you know, giving and receiving love, money, art, beauty, magnetism is, if [00:52:00] there were one word to describe Venus Energy, when you step into it, it's magnetism. [00:52:04] Keisha: So to step into your magnetism, you want to put yourself in those Gemini like environments and situations which you're doing. You have a podcast that's very Gemini. I can't remember what you wanna create, but I feel like it was also Gemini. [00:52:18] Cara: Yes. [00:52:19] Keisha: you can't talk about it, but yes. Okay. but yeah, just this, this idea of sharing ideas and collaboration, absolutely puts you into your Venus energy. [00:52:28] Keisha: And then you wanna look at also what are the aspects to your Venus, because like I said before, it's one thing to know you have Venus and Gemini in the fourth house, for example, but if it's squaring something challenging or opposite, something challenging, that's gonna add a whole other layer. And that's where the work is. [00:52:45] Cara: Yeah, well that, yeah, that makes sense. It is in my 10th house, so it does make sense that, yeah, that it's in my career house. but yeah, I don't know. I don't know the aspects. I'll have to look at that. Well, yeah, thank you so much for sharing that. Is there, what are some other offerings and how [00:53:00] can the audience find you? [00:53:01] Keisha: Yeah, so I can give you my link tree as well, which has readings. I have, private sessions that I offer where we can do subconscious alchemy readings, which is the session that you had. I also do relationship readings and channelings, and then I have some email readings if you just need some quick guidance as well. [00:53:21] Cara: Awesome. I do have one question. Do most people cry like a baby like I did in my session, or is that a, a one off? [00:53:29] Keisha: Nope, I, I put in the description like you will probably cry, so just make sure you, you know, don't have anything booked right after Cause [00:53:38] Cara: it was powerful and I appreciate it. And of course, thank you so much for coming on. And yeah, after the session with her, I was like, yep, she's gotta be a guest. So thank you so much for coming. I appreciate it. [00:53:49] Keisha: Thank you. This was so much fun. [00:53:51] Cara: Thank you so much. Chat soon. [00:53:52] Thank you so much for joining me this week. If this was your first time. Welcome. And if you joined me for previous episodes, thank you so [00:54:00] much for coming back before you go. Could you share my channel with a friend or subscribe? If you haven't yet? Those few seconds make a huge impact on my show. And I'd be grateful for the support. [00:54:10] I absolutely love this interview with Keisha. She is a beautiful soul and I just love watching her readings any times. They come up on my FYP. If you want to find out how to connect with her, check the show notes and all the links mentioned will be at caraDempsey.com/ 70. thank you so much for being here and we'll chat soon