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Empath
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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome. This episode is all about and paths. I wanted to share my personal experience. And just had a couple different things that piqued my interest to elaborate more and maybe help someone through their process of understanding how to embrace being an empath so thanks for being here and i will see you on the other side.
[00:00:23] Cara: Welcome to floductivity, a place to inspire and empower beings to embrace self-love and self-development for an achievable balance of productivity. I share different ways to come back to your intuition through spirituality, self care, human design, cycle planning, wellness, and everything in between.
[00:00:42] Cara: Thank you so much for joining me this week. If this is your first time. Welcome. And if you've been here with me before. Thank you so much for coming back. I'm so excited to join you in this journey. As we learn together.
[00:00:55] Welcome to the empath episode. What [00:01:00] exactly is an empath by definition, it is a person who is a highly attuned to their feelings, emotions of those around them. And pass feel what another person is feeling at a deep, emotional level. I did not know what an empath was, or really allow myself to be considered an empath.
[00:01:22] Until more recently, but once I heard it, I felt very seen and heard because I do, I can walk into the room and I can feel. Just what the emotions are going on in the room.
[00:01:37] And I also feel like that is a big reason why I burnt out from being a hairdresser. Can people be an empath and being a hairdresser a hundred percent. And that's ultimately what this episode is about . One of the things that piqued my interest on this was an episode of. The real Housewives of salt lake city. It is one of my guilty pleasures and.
[00:01:58] I can't [00:02:00] quote it verbatim, but Lisa Barlow said something in a very upset. Deep emotional state saying like I'm an empath. And while that probably is true. My perception is that she is an unconscious. empath and I know that's a bold statement and I'm, that's why I'm saying it's my perception.
[00:02:18] But ultimately. I used to play the victim of an empath and I find it very powerful thing. But it is up to us to set boundaries, protect our energy and clear our energy so that the feelings and emotions of other people do not affect us now. Do you just wake up one day having all of this set in place? No, it takes practice. It is something that is.
[00:02:46] Hard to do, but I find that I'm not affected by people's behaviors, emotions, reactions. As much as I was in the past, because I protect myself going into [00:03:00] situations. I understand that when someone may be effecting me, I have the option to kind of take a step out of the room. I will say being a mom of two children always has that scapegoat. So.
[00:03:16] I can use that as a, as a thing, like my kids need me. I need to take a moment. The people that I'm most affected by. In this.
[00:03:24] Overwhelm of emotions are the people that are unconscious. They might be an empath, but they are unconscious. Of their feelings and emotions and how they affect other people. And so when I saw Lisa Barlow doing that, I remember feeling that deeply previously of how I'm an empath. Poor me. I absorb people's emotions.
[00:03:48] And another little piece to this and I, I'm not sure if everybody who has an open. Emotional center and human design. If they are an empath. But [00:04:00] ultimately what that means is when that is open, when you have an energy center, open and human design, you are more susceptible to those around you who may have that colored in.
[00:04:12] And so I think. The biggest time that I really felt that I was an empath, was what I saw in my human design. I am literally designed to absorb people's emotions. And so that's when I started leaning into it, like. Oh, this is a benefit. This is, this is a gift that I have. And so if I can use it to my advantage, then I can help those around me with coaching with certain things, because.
[00:04:43] I can see and feel what they're going through and help them navigate to get out of it in a way that is empowering and feels good to them. On. The other hand of when it's that victim. Mentality of it. [00:05:00] You know, you're susceptible, but do you didn't have those practices in place? I E. You know, setting the boundaries, the energetic boundaries before going into certain places and locations.
[00:05:13] Now don't get me wrong. We are, we'll all be triggered. Even if we have a shield up. You know, there are things that will trigger us into being more empathic, but it is one of those once you know that it's up to you to set the boundaries. To clear that energy. And to use it in an empowering way. As an empath, you can change lives. I already feel like I've changed people's lives with being able to kind of see what they're feeling when I'm being able to coach with them.
[00:05:49] Strategize with them. One-on-one.
[00:05:51] So another aspect that came up and I know I mentioned it earlier in this podcast was being conscious and unconscious, and [00:06:00] that really felt resonant in the sense of yes, I. Was very unconscious. With my empathy. With my empath personality. I did not know how to process that. I did not know how to give people their space to feel.
[00:06:19] Because one of the things that I tend to do. Is being able to bring it back to myself and I try not to do it in a selfish way. I just want to show them, I know what that feels like. I can feel what you're feeling right now. And so I have a similar situation. That makes me feel how you're feeling. And so it's a way to say, like I F I can feel what you're feeling and here's something that I can relate to, and this is what I've done to help me through it.
[00:06:49] And I hope my experience can empower you. To also. Figure out a way out of it because. You know, we all have [00:07:00] lessons in this life and. Not everything that I do or you do will resonate with another person. If there's a little piece of their experience that can help you on your journey and make it a little easier or make you feel more understood and supported.
[00:07:17] It brings so much growth with the whole process. And that is why I've really embraced this idea of helping people strategize on what they want is because. Having that gift of being an empath, I can see what emotions they're going through and hopefully help them. Get to a point where they're not overwhelmed that they feel seen and heard and supported because we're all built so differently.
[00:07:51] And I think a lot of impasse try to fit in a box that someone else built. [00:08:00] And the more we can. Embrace our design understand that these things that we're given.
[00:08:06] Could maybe feel like a burden at first, but when we use them as a gift, It helps other people that also think that they were a burden at one point. And so using these things and flipping it to our advantage.
[00:08:24] Now. Empathy and being empathic. Has been a difficult journey for me. And I think I find that.
[00:08:36] This journey that I felt with empathy and empathic has been hard for me because I feel like there's been times in my life where people have maybe. Pointed out that.
[00:08:49] Maybe I'm coming from a selfish place. And I think that's a part of being an unconscious. empath. Is you just [00:09:00] have these overwhelming feelings. You don't know where they're coming from because they're not coming from you. And you're, you're overwhelmed with it and you don't really know what to do with it. And so sometimes, like I said before, you may.
[00:09:16] Point it back to yourself, but it's just more of ICU. I see what you're going through and I hope. That. Just knowing that you're not alone in this, we'll help you through it. Enough.
[00:09:30] And so there was a long time where I was like, I don't have empathy and I had many people tell me, otherwise, they're like, it's the opposite. You feel so deeply that it kind of. Paralyzes you, or you don't even know what to do with the emotions. You might be feeling so much empathy, but it, it brings out anger in you, or it brings out sadness in you. Because again, you're.
[00:09:55] Absorbing someone else's emotions. And when [00:10:00] you learn how to understand, especially with human design, if you look at. Your. Emotional center. If it's white. . And I do think you can be empathic without having that being white. Or colored in. Say I'm in an argument with someone. And I'm feeling overwhelmed with anger.
[00:10:22] I've realized that I have to take a step out of the room to understand, is this my anger? Is this their anger? But I also have to learn to communicate that because if I just walk out of a room in mid fight, That's disrespectful to someone. And so when I have these conversations, you know, like I have to say, like, I just need a moment to gather myself. I have to understand where I'm coming from.
[00:10:50] Because if anger. Is coming from someone else. And I have that emotional center open. I'm going to reflect anger back to them, even though I [00:11:00] might not be angry at all. I might not have any reason to be angry. especially when I didn't have the self-awareness. You know, my reaction to fights.
[00:11:10] Was not healthy for anybody in. You know, in the fight with me, because I was just reflecting back what they were giving me. And so knowing that and knowing that I have control over my own emotions. And that it's my job to see is this mine is this theirs? Do I need to release and kind of energy clear before I go back in there.
[00:11:33] Is this something that we need to table and come back to and knowing that. It is up to us to make these decisions. And hopefully have enough self-awareness in the process.
[00:11:46] That could be a, being an empath that could be, you know, an old poker player. I'm not sure, but I can tell usually when someone is talking and how they're feeling.
[00:11:57] And so.
[00:11:58] You know, [00:12:00] An extra piece to this. That's been a little bit vulnerable. Is. Now that I'm a conscious empath, it has changed my relationships. And it doesn't mean that the relationships I had in my life previously don't mean the world to me. And that I love these people to my core. It means that.
[00:12:23] Right now in my life. You know, I have a lot of focus on rebuilding my career. Trying to rebuild a career at starting at 37, going into 39 at my forties is overwhelming and scary. Especially when you have two little ones. Two younger kids to care for. And so my energy is up to me pro to protect. And right now the investment that I want to put in other people are people that can also empower me back. I want to talk about. [00:13:00]
[00:13:00] What you're striving to do. I want to talk about your goals. I want to talk about the things stopping you and the hard things from it. I want to empower you. To know that you are. So powerful in your design and that when you honor how you're built. Wonderful things can come. But for me to do that for someone, I need some support in another way. And so that energy that I had in friendships and these relationships around me,
[00:13:32] Had to shift because right now my time is limited and I want to put investment into other people that are going to put investment in me. And that had to let some of my relationships. Fall away a little bit. And again, it doesn't mean that they're never going to be in my life. It doesn't mean that I don't love them. It doesn't mean any of that. It just means that.
[00:13:57] I need a return on investment in my energy [00:14:00] right now. And. It feels good. The relationships I've built in the last year have been amazing. The people that I've come across because they are in the same place they are in their life. They're trying to build. Something purposeful and meaningful, empowering that are going to help other people.
[00:14:19] In their journey. Because. When you start living from a place of purpose. And alignment. And empowerment. it's like something that I cannot describe. And I want other people that are doing the same thing. In my circle on the video calls with me in my emails. And I want the people that are ready to make that step in my business. You know, I'm very purposeful on who I put around.
[00:14:54] In my orbits. Because. I know. People [00:15:00] are built. So uniquely and so powerful in their own way. And if they could understand that. If they are willing to understand that I want them in my circle because I want to unlock. They're gifts so that they can do what they're meant to in this lifetime.
[00:15:20] Because life is short time. We don't have much of it. So I want to make sure that the time I'm spending right now has purpose. It feels good. And that. S it's going to give me another tool to put my tool belt, to help someone else to know that we are making a change in this world. Because there's so many scary things happening.
[00:15:47] And my energy. My life of the empath.
[00:15:53] Is not meant to get in the darkness of that because I'm left [00:16:00] paralyzed. That's just how I'm designed. I will be left paralyzed if I've been barred myself with the news. And too much social media and too much negativity because I know it exists, but I personally think, and. You know, I hope this doesn't come off as toxic positivity
[00:16:22] and honestly, you can see it in people's human design.
[00:16:24] There's people in this world that are meant to be activists. And while I feel like I'm at. An activist for healing and empowerment. You know, when it gets to the nitty-gritty I get paralyzed when there's too much. Hate and fear involved in it. And so my goal is to say, Hey, you're meant to be an activist. Let's look at your human design so you can be the best possible activists out there. So you can make a change in what you're good at. And guess what.
[00:16:51] You are so good about reflecting back to people, what they need to do in their life. You should be a coach. And you know what [00:17:00] You have the biggest hearts and you have the details meant to be a hairstylist and to make someone feel beautiful. And so.
[00:17:09] In this episode of being an empath, I just. I think that a part of it is we're also unique in how we're built and knowing. You were an empath is the first step into embracing it and understanding how you can protect yourself. How you can set boundaries and how you can clear energy, those three things.
[00:17:31] Are really important for you to utilize the gift of being an empath and use it in whatever career that you're doing. And so. A little piece just to end. This is if I was still a hairdresser, what I would do.
[00:17:49] Too. Embrace being an empath one, I would protect my energy before going into work. I would do an energy [00:18:00] protection meditation. I find that guided meditations really help walk you through the process because sometimes starting from scratch is overwhelming. And so.
[00:18:11] Having. An energy protection. Podcast. I will link that in the show notes. If you want to have one, save it, come back to it. Start your day with energy protection. The next thing that I would do is figure out an energy clearing practice. I also have a meditation that I will link in the show notes.
[00:18:35] It can be five minutes or I want to say 11 minutes, you can make the choice on the time I did a short one because you know, sometimes you need five minutes in between, uh, uh, clients to be able to clear that energy. Please by all means energy clearing is important. You can take my meditation and script out something that you just look at your notes and you [00:19:00] say out loud to yourself, are you saying your head to yourself? Something because spending 30 seconds clearing your energy is going to do so much more than doing nothing at all.
[00:19:11] Another way that is really important to clearing your energy that you can do that just takes a second or two. Is drinking water and imagining the water going through your body and clearing it. Also using the restroom is a great way to imagine your body clearing the energy from your last client. So these are little tidbits that you can do.
[00:19:35] In between the client and also at the end of the day. And I would say like at least do a five minute meditation at the end of the day and let those. You know, feelings and emotions from other people clear away. I feel like how many times I would stay up and not be able to sleep. Because I was holding on to so many people's [00:20:00] emotions.
[00:20:00] And so just know that you have the power to protect yourself, empower yourself with it. Because being an empath as a hairdresser is probably one of the biggest gifts you can give. Your clients or your guests? And. Making sure you're not taking the energy from client to client, along with you because highly empathic people can feel that they can feel when you've brought on someone else's energy or your own energy into that.
[00:20:31] And so just having awareness of energy will also help you navigate being an empath.
[00:20:37] So I hope you enjoyed this episode and I'd love to hear from you. If you have any ideas for an episode or a meditation. And as always, if you want to learn more about this episode, check the show notes and we will chat soon.
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