What Does It Mean To Be a Spiritual Mother | #23

NOTE: This podcast was transcribed by an AI tool. Please forgive any typos or errors. Spiritual As a Mom === Cara: [00:00:00] On this episode of floductivity I'm going to be talking about my experience of having a spiritual awakening while also being a mother. I see a lot of other women going through this. But I don't see a lot of people talking about it. So I just wanted to share what I've been through and what helps me along the way. And I'm doing this episode a little differently than normal. I'm usually a planner. I have an outline. This one is going to be talking and from my heart. And so I hope that the passion and the experience comes through. And if you enjoy this episode, I'd love to hear about it. So maybe I can do more episodes in this format. I can't wait to get started i'll see you on the other side New Intro: Welcome to Floductivity. A place to inspire and empower beings to embrace self-love and self-development. For an achievable balance of productivity. I shared different ways to come back to your intuition through spirituality. Self care, human design. Cycle planning. Wellness and everything in between. Thank you so much for [00:01:00] joining me this week. If this is your first time. Welcome. And if you've been here with me before, thank you so much for coming back. I'm so excited to join you in this journey as we learn together Marker — Cara: Welcome to the spiritual. Mother episode. I'm not sure if that's the title I'm going to go with, but that's how I'm going to start out this episode. And we're going to go from there. This episode is really just going to be more of an intuitive episode. I'm just going to talk it out and kind of see what comes through. And I hope you can find some nuggets to help you. Kind of connect with yourself. You don't have to be spiritual to. Enjoy this episode. But I found. Finding that balance between. Finding myself. But also being there for my kids. It takes balance. It takes awareness. And it's really fricking hard. And so. You know, the things in this process, you. I start with. I think there's a place to start with this. [00:02:00] And that was before I had my spiritual moment. Spiritual awakening, whatever you want to call it. I put so much. Weight into what other people thought. Before I did anything. I put so much weight into the opinions of others and making sure the choices I made. Didn't affect all those around me poorly. And I found in my spiritual awakening. Well, there's people that love me and support me. They don't do the same for me in that. And that's okay. They're not supposed to. And so in that power, I found. That that time and that energy I put into this idea of. Having to please everyone else around me. All I really had to do was that time that I was spent externally. I turned around and put that time internally. And so the spiritual path that I'm on really hasn't taken any time [00:03:00] away from my kids. It's actually made me a better mom because I have self-awareness now I understand the things that trigger me. I understand the things that. Make me not be the best version of myself. And I did not have that. Awareness before, because I put so much. Of my being in what other people thought of me Cara: So it was this idea of self-love self-awareness like it always came back to the self, always. And that's kind of where this all began. Because I was looking for external validation, external support. External celebration. Everything was coming from outside myself. And whether I got it or I didn't. It's still, never fulfilled that longing I wanted for. And once I started listening to myself, listening to my [00:04:00] intuition, listening to those callings, listening to my soul's passion, all those things that I had. Buried deep down in myself, started coming through. I realized that. It's my job to care about myself. It's my job to be aware of my. Toxic behaviors. It's my job. Two. Regulate my emotions. It's my job to acknowledge my emotions. And that lesson came from. Being a mother. I had a situation parent. Mother situation. Last year when my daughter had to say this prayer in front of hundreds of people and she. Was very down on herself about the whole. Experience that she was going to do a bad job and she was going to make all those around her, do a bad job. And. it was breaking my heart a little bit. And. Sometimes it's an instinct. You just want to say you'll do fine. You'll do fine. But in that moment, [00:05:00] I said, Yeah. Wow. It is hard to stand up in front of all those people. And it does take courage. And that's okay. But what we can do so that you feel more confident is practice. And always have the option to back out. If you really feel like you can't do it. And at the time my daughter didn't read. So teaching someone a prayer. It's very hard when they don't have words to look at. So my creative visual mind started working and I made a page of all the images of the words. so if it was prayer was the word I would have hands in prayer. And so we just practiced and I just said, you know, we're just going to keep practicing and you see how you feel about it. And. By the end. I mean, even like a week before this prayer that she had to do, she did not need this paper. I made her, she was so excited to practice in front of me and her dad. And she had that confidence. It [00:06:00] showed that I acknowledged and honored those feelings of being scared. Letting her know that I would be scared too, and that she's not alone in it. And that we would just practice and work on it and she would have the power to decide if she ultimately wanted to do it. And in the end, she did it. She did an awesome job. And it was one of those moments in parenthood where I was like, wow. And it's so empowering. So that, that was a moment in motherhood. That taught me where my daughter was the teacher to me. And that's a lot of what this episode is about is kids are the ultimate teachers in this spiritual realm when you're stepping into being more aware of your energy and the surroundings and. Cara: What you take in is also what you put out and having that self-awareness. You know, I think another thing. In this journey of having kids is my son is a Scorpio. He [00:07:00] reminds me a lot of my dad who was also a Scorpio. They get hot and bothered. my son has these moments where He has an overwhelming amount of emotions. And again, I've taught him too. Try not to put. Those emotions onto other people. Letting him know that it's okay to have those emotions that sometimes we may need to take ourselves out of this situation and feel our emotions. And my husband even came to me last week and had said, He had one of his moments. And I was blown away that he just kind of walked out of the room. He went into the bathroom. He goes, I don't know what he was doing in there, but he came out and he was common. He was collected and he was able to kind of apologize and be aware of. What had just happened. And my husband's like, I just never expected a three-year-old to have so much. Self-awareness. And I was like, to be honest, I feel like it comes from my own. Childhood. Difficulties. Not knowing that it's okay to have [00:08:00] feelings, not knowing what to do with these feelings, because it's scary when you have this wave of emotion. And as an adult, I still get these waves of emotion. And knowing that. If I feel like I need to take a moment and walk out of the room. That is perfectly okay. If that's what I needed to do in the moment. It's having that. Self-awareness to say, this is what I need. I'm going to give myself the time and the space. And give myself love, acknowledge it. And then if I need to. I acknowledge it to someone else and come forth with. Recognizing, maybe what I did wrong in this situation. Is showing my kids that. Taking accountability. For our actions is our job. It's no one else's. So a lot of this. Episode is more on. Trying to see what works best for me, my husband, my kids. And taking the tools that work. And letting go the toolset don't because we are all so [00:09:00] different. And what may work for my daughter may not work for my son. And so it's not fitting them into a box or fitting myself in a box of being. That mom or. She's that child. And allowing them to. Shine where they want to shine and allowing them to retract where they want to attract, because we aren't meant to do all the things all the time. Any of us, all of us, women, men, kids, like we need downtime. And taking that. Pressure off of ourselves is really important Everybody's spiritual journey, journey to wellness, whatever they're on is different from person to person. But I do wanna share the tips and the tools that have helped me kind of connect with myself because ultimately the connection with my myself is the key to having a life of more purpose and ease knowing. What lights me up [00:10:00] and brings me joy, knowing what may trigger me, knowing how I can best provide for my kids and what I'm capable of having, because we are all just doing the best we can with the tools we have. So taking away the expectation of ourselves selves. because, you know, you might look at that Pinterest mom doing all these things for their kids, and you're trying to keep up to that. And honestly that may just deplete you in the end. But taking that same concept and using that. With our children, our partners, and understanding that we make decisions differently. Reprocess emotions differently. And allowing people to have what works for them. And being okay with that. So to start. I'm going to talk about the things that I do now in my rituals, my [00:11:00] habits that really help connect me with myself. And that is my spiritual journey. Having that connection to myself. Is my spiritual journey. It's knowing that when I put the time and the energy into myself, it is going to benefit those around me. I think this idea of being selfish. Is out the door. And anyone who kind of puts that judgment on you or someone else about that? That's our own burden to break down. You know, you can't let the opinions judgements of other people. Kind of get on you. Human Design AD: Are you longing for a life with purpose and ease maybe you're dreaming of a place where you could connect to and understand your natural abilities. By unlocking and using your human design chart, you're able to connect and understand and honor your soul while increasing harmony and success in your life. Human design lens, a microscope. To how the universe designed you from birth. Once, you know, what powers your energetic [00:12:00] circuitry you'll have the self-awareness tools to engage. Your highest perspective. Human design supports and powers and aligns your relationships, career and home life. It is time for you to look within at how powerful you are and show up as your authentic self. Human design can be daunting at first, but download my free interactive chart to help you understand the foundations. The chart that I've provided is all clickable, the energy centers, the boxes, anything on the chart that looks like a box, click it, and it will take you to that description so that you can learn more. Head over to Caradempsey.com/hd to download your free. Human design interactive workbook now. Marker — Cara: So. How I start my day is really important to me, and it has evolved over the last few years, but what I am really into right now is getting up. I have a journal. That I may write my dreams into. I do feel like sometimes my [00:13:00] dreams may try to kind of give me messages and I just like to kind of see where it's at my life with that. And. That's not something I've always done. It's just something that I'm doing right now. I do it immediately after I get out of bed, because if I let any part of the day in my energy, like that dream is out of my mind. So I have to. Catch it before it floats away. I then have my green juice, my athletic greens in the morning. It's something that I recently added to my regimen and it's pretty much taken away. All of my supplements. I feel great. It really helps. With my blood sugar. It really helps to know that the first thing in my body is something really good for me. And that's important to me. While I'm drinking my green juice. I will read a self improvement book. It varies what book I'm doing right now. I'm reading the master key. [00:14:00] And that's something that like, I read the same chapter for a week. It's a very different than my goal oriented check things off the list, but ultimately, it's going to take a very long time to get through this book, but this book has so much powerful information in it that. You have to read it. Over and over and over again, to get the nuggets of information. I normally do these things called the Tibetan rights. It's ultimately five yoga poses and each pose has. An affiliated. Affirmation to go with it. And the concept is one moving your body for sing in the morning. It only takes about eight minutes, eight to 10 minutes to do the whole thing. You do each yoga pose 21 times. say the affirmation and then you go to the next. Round of yoga poses. I've taken a break from that. I recently had surgery and I'm not allowed to work out. So I do feel a bit off right now because I am not moving my body. Like I normally like, but. I've actually fallen off [00:15:00] the wagon of. Working out like I used to, I actually don't work out very often. So when I can start the day with this movement, it makes me feel really good. And so my morning ritual takes about 20 minutes. I spend about 10 minutes reading about 10 minutes moving my body. And it is the perfect way for me to start my day. My kids are three and six. And so. I get this question quite often of. How do you not get interrupted? And this is three years in the making and I still get interrupted, but I just communicate.. That's the ticket. I just go tell my kids, Hey, I'm going to read outside. I would love to have some quiet. Can you refrain from coming to get me? If you want anything to eat, this is the time to tell me if you need me to get you anything. This is a time to tell me. And it doesn't always work. But a lot of the time it does. I find that when I do it in the same place every day, they know not [00:16:00] to come there. We had gone on a trip a couple of weeks ago, and I found that because we were in a new space. Our normal boundaries weren't there. And so they had a really hard time respecting that. But we also didn't have the space that we normally would have. So. I also try to meditate in the morning and I'll be honest with you. It's five minutes, but. I like to do it outside. If I can. I like nature. I feel like having nature every day is important. Even though. It is summertime and North Carolina, and it is so humid that I can barely breathe. But I at least start my morning with like a mini meditation. After I read my book. From there. I can't really say there's a lot. That I'm devoting to like that spirituality throughout the day. I do communicate with my kids when I need a moment. And ask them to give me a little space in a room and do whatever I need to do. And one thing that has been a game changer for [00:17:00] me is my headphones. I have. Noise canceling headphones. I know some moms might. Be a little nervous of putting something down like that with having small kids at home. And I just make sure that my kids are in a safe environment. If I'm really going to have both earphones on my ears. I usually have earphones in throughout the day with some sort of solfeggio. I find that they help calm my nervous system. And I highly recommend them. They are very healing. there is a list on Spotify that I can recommend in this episode. And I ultimately just put that on shuffle repeat and let what plays. And that's been huge when I work, I have them on, when I add up my podcast, I have them on. When I cook, I have them on. And so sometimes they're on for all of us to hear, but a lot of times I have my headphones. On, again, if I'm around the kids that I need to be able to hear, I usually will only have one on my ear or I have [00:18:00] my other earphones that I just literally only have one ear bud in my ear. The next thing that I. Try to do is I show my kids. When I meditate, I show my kids when I do yoga, because I hope these tools that have helped me will also help them. It's that whole concept of monkey. See. Monkey do. You know, there's so many things that like, I'm like, oh, you know, I wish my kids just did this. And then I'm like, well, they probably don't know how to do it because they've never seen anybody do it. Or I've never taken the time to show them. So if there's anything that I want my kids to embody or learn, or have the choice themselves to be able to incorporate in their day, I try to show them. But again, Sometimes. I'm just needs her space. I've also found that taking. Energetic breaks or energetic clearing throughout the day has really helped me. And what that really means [00:19:00] is when I take a drink of water, I imagine it. Clearing my energy. When I go to the bathroom, I imagine it clearing my energy. When I take a shower, I let that water come down. On top of my body. And I imagine it clearing my energy. I will just take a step outside. We have beautiful trees in our backyard. We have beautiful trees in our backyard. And so just being with nature also helps me. Just reset. And sometimes it's taking my kids on a walk, taking them outside, having them a part of it too. Sometimes, even though my kids are with me, it's still giving all of us that energetic reset. And that's been very, very helpful in not letting the overwhelm of being a mother at home with her kids. To just take those little moments and be very intentional with them. Another [00:20:00] aspect I've been incorporating since pretty much. I stopped working as a hairstylist. Is when my husband gets off work. I take a break altogether. He takes the kids for a good hour or so to play outside whatever they need to do. And I find a place where I am not bothered. And I'll be honest. Sometimes I go in. My office and I scroll on Tik TOK. Sometimes I watch my crappy TV. But I really try. Too. Do something. For myself first. Before I engage in any of that, like numbing activity, because we all need that sometimes like life is overwhelming. It can't all be healing and butterflies and rainbows. It. You need to have breaks. And so. Again, whether that's meditating. If that's. Lighting a candle and being purposeful with it. It's like finding [00:21:00] the things that really light you up. And incorporating that in your everyday life. I used to withhold candles from me because they were so sacred that I didn't want to use them up. And they're expensive. And so I will treat myself to some candles here and there. But it was worth it for me to learn how to make candles. spend a little time making them so that I always have them and I'm not spending a lot of money. You don't have to spend a lot of money to. Incorporate or engage in these spiritual practices. Literally nature and being with yourself is all you need. But sometimes it's nice to light a candle and incense have a pretty crystal here or there. Now, I'm going to wrap up this episode about how I incorporate my family in my cycle. You know, it's not something that like, we go in deep with. But it is something that I communicate with my husband and my kids, like. This is when we're cleaning, because mommy is going to be [00:22:00] resting. And resetting a little bit more in the next few weeks. So let's make sure that we are extra careful about picking up our stuff. And let's make sure that we already have our food plans so that we're nourishing ourselves. So. For me having that connection to my body, I have to make sure that my family is aware of. What I need at that time, because nothing's worse than. Not communicating your expectations. And then expecting people. To know what you need, because that is just setting everybody up for failure. And it's not really healthy to do that. Does it always go as planned? No. But again, the more we communicate, the more we talk, the easier things get. And. Perfection. It's not obtainable. No one wants it. No one wants to be around someone who thinks they're perfect. So it's just trying our best [00:23:00] each and every day. That's all we can do. I do like to have a full moon and new moon ritual. I am someone who likes to vary it, depending on how I'm feeling, where I'm at in my cycle, what the moon. Zodiac's in, When I pick cards. You know, have all different card decks. To help connect me with my intuition. And my kids love them. And so that is something that I do. Include my kids on when they want to, if they see me doing it. So they see me doing these things where I take this time, journaling, devotion, whatever it is. And they're interested. And so it's my job to. Share with them, what I'm doing and then letting them decide if that's something that feels good to them or not. Because no one wants their thoughts, traditions. Those types of things forced upon them. I'm. I'm very open to letting my kids choose what feels good to them. As long as it's no harm [00:24:00] to others. This final thought on spirituality being a mom. However you may want to take this episode is breathing. And I'm actually going to do a whole episode on breathing because that was what my surgery was on. I've had a deviated septum my whole life. And then when I had a friend's. Accidentally dumped on my head in a pool and it knocked me out. It definitely affected my breathing then. And so finally, after many years I got it fixed. But I found that I actually have to teach myself how to purposely breathe. I've never been good about breathing. I have been a mouth breather, which. Grinds my gears. It drives me nuts. But I couldn't change it. I could not breathe through my nose. And so I'm very excited to say that I can. But in this, I have been trying to teach my kids. Just how to purposely breathe. When again, they are overwhelmed. And they just need to come back to themselves. And just the simple act of [00:25:00] breathing could change someone's life. I'm reading a book. Right now. And again, I'm going to go in depth with this because it is blowing my mind about what we can do with breathing. So teaching my kids, the tool on the different types of breathing to help them is also very important. And I think the simple act of breathing could change their life with their health and anxiety and depression, all those things. If they could just focus on. You know, certain types of breathing. I feel like so many people would. Heal from what they're going through. So I appreciate you. I'm glad you're here. And I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you liked this free flowing conversation with myself, let me know. This isn't. Normally how I do it. So I love to hear feedback on what you guys think, I do this podcast. Because I want to share all this information, these tips, all these things that have changed my life. I want to help change [00:26:00] yours too. So let me know. What other topics do you want to talk about? we'll chat soon. Thank you so much for joining me this week. If this was your first time. Welcome. And if you've joined me for previous episodes, thank you so much for coming back. Before you go, make sure you share my podcast with a friend or subscribe. If you haven't yet those few seconds make a big impact on my podcast and I'd be grateful for the support. . If you want to learn more about anything mentioned in this episode this episode show notes will caradempsey.com/23 we'll chat soon